[Vent] No! You can't use those songs!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 6
Member
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Your Mom and sister are overreacting.  I would use the songs anyways, but I’m sure you realize that your sister may not be a bridesmaid.  Does she usually display theatrics?  It’s ridiculous on your sister’s part!

Post # 7
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1013 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would not have even had a conversation about it…. “I’m sorry you feel that way, sister, but those are my wedding songs”.

Post # 8
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Sounds like she is having a little sister tantrum 🙁 This is the part of wedding planning I hate the most, trying to make sure everyone is “okay”. I told my dad the other day “Why can’t people be normal for one fk’ing day” .. I am sorry she’s being a shit head over this. 

If the songs are special to you use them, if they are not worth (as in not important), change them. Thats my best advice. 

Post # 9
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow your sister sounds like an immature brat. Use the songs, since you know you are getting married and shes not even in a relationship

Post # 10
Hostess
9892 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

use the songs.

Her first dance song will probably change 10 times over and I think it would be sweet if your dad used the same song for both daughters – why not?

 

Little sisters can be weird, I have two, 1 who was engaged before me (with no plans to have a wedding) who sometimes seems resentful about mine (she’s my MOH) and my other sister is way too excited – she’s almost 23 – and thinks things should be way over the top.

Post # 11
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Use the songs. If she want’s to not go to your wedding then that’s her fault. When people ask you can say that she was protesting your wedding because you choose to use two songs that she also wants to use in her hypothetical future wedding. And then you can wait for everyones puzzled stares, because that is some fucked up reasoning for not attending a family members wedding.

Post # 12
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@somethingaquamarine:  agreed. She will change her mind when its her turn to get married. The things I thought I wanted at 18 and 21 are completely different.

Post # 13
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3237 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sassygrn:  +1

OP, your sister sounds like a huge brat. I would tell her that she can use the songs first if she gets married first.

Post # 14
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856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@GamersBride:  I’d tell her TFB… If she doesn’t show up (which she will) she’s the one who will look like an idiot.

Post # 15
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640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Call her bluff. Tell her you are using the songs and see what happens. If she really refuses to be there, then it’s time for a mom/sister heart-to-heart, face-to-face. 

Post # 16
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

You have every right in the world to use those songs.  Your family is not being fair about this.  First of all, there is no reason whatsoever that your little sister cannot choose to use the exact same songs for her weddding some day.  Beyond that, she may not marry for many years, or ever.  It’s unfair and, frankly, ridiculous for your parents and your sister to be behaving in this manner about this issue.

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