(Vent) Not invited and bummed

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@inspiration86:  I get that you two are engaged, but if you don’t know the couple why do you care? It saves you money on a gift

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe they didn’t send you a formal invite since you’re technically your FI’s +1?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@inspiration86:  Wait. Your FI said in front of them that it was nice that you were invited too, right? So maybe he got the invitation and RSVPd or thought him saying that to them counted. Why do you assume now that you’re not invited?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@inspiration86:  I don’t blame you for being pissed. You two are a social unit and you are engaged. I wonder if other engaged couples are invited. Are they paying your FI to “work” for the evening? If they are, I guess I could excuse it. If he is just helping them out for free then I’d be supremely pissed…I know my husband wouldn’t even go if I wasn’t invited and would tell them to use a damn iPod.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@inspiration86:  Yes, you are PMSing. This is a little confusing. So he mentioned to the couple that he’s glad you can go, and they did not say otherwise? You might be invited by default because he is working and they did not think to send you an invitation because they did not send him an invitation.

And even if you are not invited, that’s not a huge deal. They might have been thinking “Oh, he will be working, so she will not have anyone to be with and we don’t want her to be uncomfortable”. Sure, his family will be there but they don’t know what kind of relationship you have with them, so that could be a bad assumption to make.

 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Are you sure FI didn’t already rsvp with you included? 

They may just figure since he’s DJing he doesn’t need a +1 and they don’t really know you. They might be on a tight budget. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your fiance is working as a vendor. We didn’t give +1’s to our vendors. It’s a little bit of a different situation because the couple seems to be family friends of your in-laws, but your fiance is still working as a vendor. Have you talked to your fiance about this? If he got an invitation (and we didn’t send invitations to our vendors), if you’re invited you would be invited on his invitation, you wouldn’t get an invitation of your own.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Would your FI have been invited if he weren’t DJing? I think that can make this an entirely different situation if he wouldn’t have been invited otherwise.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Probably because is working. Had he been invited as a guest and not as a vendor, I assume you would be invited too.

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