- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
O.k there is no reason to be annoyed and it’s actually really rude of me to be but I just wanted to say something. I know it is against etiquette or whatever to have any annoyances over the generosity that are gifts. I appreciate that they are gifts and not requirements. My good friend is about to get married and a few of our friends still havent gotten her gifts. She lives in a studio with her FI and they have a highly specific, small registry since they are tight on space and have most basics covered. Despite that many of our mutual friends are complaining that they’re just going to give off registry instead of risking having to give cash since the registry is almost completed. Like completely b’ing about it and how rude the couple was to clearly be asking for money/being difficult to purchase for.
I know I shouldn’t be annoyed with them. First of all they don’t HAVE to give a gift. It’s just polite. People should NEVER be “forced” to give cash or asked to. I just have an issue that they’d rather get this couple something they don’t want/need/have room for and by proxy a post-honeymoon errand of returning the items or regifting. I honestly don’t even think my friend and FI had any intention of implying they wanted to be given cash and the fact people made the assumption they are grubbing for it is so rude to me. They would probably have been happy with just a card. They’re a young couple too and they understand money is tight for fresh from their college friends. I don’t understand- if the gift (which is not required) is an inconvience for you than don’t get one.
Again- I know I have no reason at all to be annoyed. I just wanted to get it off my chest and I couldn’t talk to my irl friends. Thanks for listening bees.