Vent – Officiant being demanding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s rude she demanded a +1, but she’s your officient so I think you should have given her one in the first place.  I’m assuming that because she’s a friend you aren’t paying her, so I think the least you could do is let her bring a date if it would help her enjoy the wedding.


Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I’d probably be annoyed that she pushed it after you said no, and that now she is giving you grief over there being no room for him in the house, which you didn’t plan for him staying at in the first place. While I understand why people would push to bring a date if they didn’t know many people, it seems like she is friends with the group who will be at the wedding anyway.

Post # 5
6173 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@RunsWithBears:  +1, rude she demanded a date after you told her no.

her reasons aren’t even legit.

and then expecting you to have housing arrangements for both  of them.  she needs to now make her own if she expects to stay.


Post # 6
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are you paying her to marry you?  If not, I’d look at the date as (likely less) than what you would have had to pay an officiant.  

Post # 8
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Paying $100 isn’t a lot for an officiant. I totally get it that you don’t want strangers at your wedding — I don’t either — but I think everyone in the bridal party is doing a lot for you and should be allowed to bring a date (and I’d consider the officiant in this case to be in your bridal party).

Post # 9
312 posts
Helper bee

@PennyLane67:  no, I don’t think you’re being oversensitive, I think she was inappropriate. It’s cheap and easy to get ordained online, technically any of your friends could do it. I would relieve her of the honor and ask someone else.

Post # 10
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Not sure how I feel about this one.  IF she didn’t know anyone at wedding, I def would have done +1.  We, too, are ona budget, and vended up inMoreno twenty more people than on our guest list after a my moms mandatory guests, etc….

The way we did it was this….pretty much everyone invited to our wedding has a SO….so they were invited as a couple.  If there was anyone we were going to invite that wasn’t fwith people other people (who we were sure would come), we decided to do +1…..however, it turned out that that wasn’t ever the case- everyone knows a few peoplactual the only stranger we invited was my cousins SO….who I have yet to meet becAuse they live far anyway.  Bt they have been together awhile and I was very close to my cousin growing up.


very rude of her to demand…..even more rude of hto up be upset at the sleeping arrangements.  What does she thinshall the couples she throws at the wedding are going to run off in corners and make out and leave her alone?  Lol

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