- 7 years ago
Back when my DH and I were doing our invite list for our wedding in August, we had agreed that only his Aunts and Uncles would be invited to the wedding since his mother is 1 of 10, and if we started to add the cousins then we would be way over budget and his mother made it VERY clear that she was not putting in any money for anything. Okay fine, but she flipped out when we said the cousin’s were not invited there is about 25 of them, most of which my DH hasn’t seen in 10 plus years or never even met before. My DH isn’t even close with any of his Aunt and Uncles and hasn’t seen many of them in years as well, so when she flipped about the cousins, we both tried explaining MANY times to her our financial situation and our budget, she made our life awful and called us rude and that we had no etiquette, I explained to her that because of our budget and money situation that isn’t lack of etiquette that it’s lack of etiquette to be acting in those such ways. The compromise was that the Adult cousins in our age range would be invited, ages 30+ it was only a few of them, and she said she was fine with that, which I felt it should be all cousins or no cousins, but my DH wanted to meet her halfway. Fine
However, when the invites went out, I don’t know if SHE fueled the fire with her brother and sisters or if her brothers and sisters are really that rude, but regardless a major issues came about that High school age cousins weren’t invited and they were constantly throwing etiquette remarks at me and in my face. Yet none of the aunts and uncles that had high school kids ( most of them) even respond to the RSVP and only 2 had the decency to send a card ( 1 brother actually showed up unexpected and announced to the wedding with his 3 kids and wife- whole other issues) while my beast of a MIL kept fueling them saying how rude it was for us to not invite them, and how we lack etiquette and that she never saw the invite list and has no idea who on her side was invited ( she saw the list right before we had the invites made and never said a word)
Well back to the present. My DH 20 year old cousin just got engaged and is having a March wedding. My MIL forwards my DH a scanted copy of the STD and the addressed envelope that reads
DH sister is 28 and not living with his mother, DH and I are almost 30 and living in a completely different state 8 hours from his mother. It’ just pisses me off that this family wants to get on their soap box about etiquette and then they go and do something so unclassy like that. Ugh just a Friday vent!