Post # 1
Since our weddign the in laws have been to two other weddings. Each time they have to call us to tell us exactly what was worse and what was better about the other weddings….in excrutiating detail “Their appetizers were better, but their steak was not as good. Their venue had more space and was nicer and their centerpieces were nicer….” Seriously….what gives people the right? Really?
Post # 3
THAT WOULD DRIVE ME CRAZY! It drives me crazy even now with people saying that other people are planning on doing similar things – who cares! It’s our wedding, so we’re doing what we’re doing and that’s that.
Post # 4
Oh man! It is over! It’s not like you can take their suggestions and improve things! That’s super annoying. I get frustrated now when my Future Father-In-Law compares the Destination Wedding we are planning to the one they went to a few years ago. “well x didn’t get a full length gown. You shouldn’t either she looked great!” Thanks Future Father-In-Law but as this is my first wedding I want my chance to wear the big white dress!
Post # 5
@carolsdaughter: It’s natural. My dear friend got married Saturday and I sat there comparing how their’s was better than mine LOL.
I would make the comment “well I’m sure they enjoyed their day and we can’t change ours” and end the convo.
Post # 6
This would really get on my nerves! As well intentioned as it may be, sometimes I think that people don’t realize all the blood, sweat, and tears that you put into your own wedding. The last thing I want to hear about is things that I should have done differently! Anytime my family brings something like this I just say “serenity prayer” and walk away or change the subject. 🙂
Post # 7
I totally get what you are saying. My brother got married 3 years ago and everyone is already comparing it, asking me how I am going to top his! Plus my fiance’s sister will be getting married two weeks before us so I’m sure their whole family will be making comparisons……
Post # 8
@Miss Country Chick: this is exactly how I feel. Blood, sweat and tears went into that wedding. My family poured money into it, I nearly had a nervous breakdown hot glue gunning a million crafts, etc. His family did not fund it and, honestly, did very little to help. So when I hear “they had a nicer ballroom” I want to FLIP. So much work on my part. So freakin’ much work. And yes, I know nobody’s wedding is perfect. Mine certainly wasn’t. But I HATE when they criticize it….
Post # 10
I wouldn’t respond. Seriously. If one of my ILs made comments like that, I would just look at them with a completely dead expression and not address the statement at all.
Hard to believe people can so blatantly discourteous and lacking in social graces, but then again, it’s not hard to believe at all.
Post # 11
Wow that’s really rude and would drive me insane. I’m really sorry that is happening.
Post # 12
Oh Gosh, I do this about my own wedding in comparison to others I’ve been to *all the time* – but I would HATE IT if someone else was keeping score to my face! I’m so sorry this has happened to you.
Post # 13
Yeah my family just recently had a wedding that must have cost at least $200,000 so there’s no way anyone else will ever top it so we’ve all just stopped caring about comparing them.
Post # 14
I was just to two weddings in a row. I’ve compared them (they were one week apart, how could I not note things I liked better when I’m planning my own as well? ), but I would NEVER tell either couple what I didn’t like/what they could’ve done better at their wedding! Holy disrespectful and tacky. Keep it to yourself, people!!