- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Why do people need to take our wedding plans so personally? Why do people INSIST on making things about them?
A long-time friend of Fiance was invited to the wedding as JUST HIM. We aren’t doing +1s for singles and when we sent the invites out, he was not seeing anyone. In fact, we saw him a few days before we were addressing the invites, and asked him specifically what was going on with him, as we had seen he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. He was like, “we’re totally through, I’m sick of her jerking me around.”
So we told him we were asking because we were doing the wedding invitations and he goes “oh, just put me down for two…” !??!?!?! And we explained to him that we were not doing dates for everyone, that wasn’t how it worked, and with our venue’s capacity constraints and our budget constraints, we coudlnt do dates for singles.
We sent out our invitations on 7/6, and his was addressed JUST to him. We never heard back from him, didn’t get anything in the mail.
Oh and our best man called him over and over to get an RSVP on the Bachelor Party and never got a response.
So our deadline came and went, so I sent out emails and text messaged to all people who hadn’t responded. I received the following message from this friend:
“Hi, me and J accept and will both have beef. Sorry I haven’t responded sooner, can’t wait to see you guys.”
But the problem is that J wasn’t invited and we’ve already told many people that they couldn’t bring guests. We have to be, if nothing else, consistent.
So Fiance wrote him back and said “Hey man, we got your RSVP message, and we’re glad you’ll be able to make it! Unfortunately given the capacity at our venue, we had to limit our guest list to no plus ones. When we sent out the invitations, you weren’t dating anyone, so we had planned on just one for you. I’m sorry, but we just don’t have the space for you to bring J… if we get declines that will allow us to add extra guests, I”ll call you and let you know. I hope you understand and I hope you can still make it. Thanks, FI”
Well, this friend just posted this on his wall on FB: “why does this shit keep happening to me, cant i be happy for once without being shit on. dont know what to do right now, a hard decision has to be made one of 2 ways…..”
Seriously, why do people A) Assume they can bring a guest, and B) take it personally when we are just trying to do what’s best for OUR DAY!?!?!