Post # 1
I know there are a ton of you out there who have situations just like this, but I just needed to spill it all out somewhere! We sent out 53 invites to our wedding, with about 104 people invited. It’s destination, so we assumed that at least 25% of the guests wouldn’t be able to make it, no biggie, we just wanted to let everyone know that we would love for them to come.
We are getting married on November 2nd. We sent out invites mid August. The RSVP date is October 1st, because that’s when our hotel blocks release back into the system. We have received only 23 of the invites, with 20 more to go in the next 4 days. I knew I’d have to track people down… but seriously! 20 invites! They have self-addressed, stamped postcards specifically for RSVPing!
RAWR! Alright. I know I’m going to have to call next week, but COME ON! I feel like the worst is from the cousin whose wedding we couldn’t attend, but RSVP’ed right away, and sent a wedding gift along right away only 2 months ago! She was JUST a bride. Doesn’t she feel my pain?
Post # 3
Oh! I also forgot to mention that we sent out STD’s in March, so this didn’t come as a big suprise to anyone that they’d be receiving an invite.
Post # 4
Give them the 4 days! Then proceed to freak out!
Post # 5
I am in the same boat! We still have 94 people that haven’t responded!
Post # 6
@love108: i understand freaking out now, since it seems like the hotel rooms will go away on the RSVP date.
OP- is there a way you can ask the hotel for a 1 week grace period? then you can set aside a few hours on 10/1 to call all these folks.
its possible that these people do want to come but have been waiting to decide if they can afford it/take time off. that doesnt make it any less annoying for you though!
Post # 7
Annoying! I think count them out as not coming. With destination weddngs you have to find out if you have the time or money, they probably just forgot to rsvp. It’s super annoying, and I admit I used to do this, I learned my lesson by watching friends and family get engaged then spent weeks chasing down people.
Post # 8
@raspberry bride: I knew there would be others in the same boat! Somehow, it’s just helpful to vent to people that know what’s going on!
@bostongirl27: That’s a really good idea! I will call the hotels and see if I can get a grace period!
@TwoCityBride: I wish I could say that most of them are still trying to decide if they can attend, but some of them have apparently told our parents that they are/are not going to make it, but they haven’t told us! Gah!
Thanks everyone! I needed the vent!
Post # 9
If we could go back in time and I could recommend to you to make the RSVP due date a week before you have to give numbers to you hotel, I would do that. I see this time and again. People are forgetful and they don’t RSVP when they are supposed to. They just don’t. And the ones you think would be the most responsible about it (like people who just got married) are the worst ones. You’re going to have to make a lot of phone calls on Oct 1st. Good luck!