- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
Ok, I didn’t this would happen for my wedding especially but I have a major problem with one of my bridemaids. Hopefully you bees can help.
So I have my bridesmaids picked out and I just added another a couple days ago and one of my original bridesmaids and new BM don’t get a long but new BM doesn’t seem to let it bother her. Keep in mind, I’ve been really good friends with NEW BM since JR high. Old BM texts me and says that she is hurt that I didn’t inform her about it and putting me through a whole guilt trip, saying – what if she had someone in her wedding that I hated, would I be ok with that?, but she also states that, “oh well it’s your wedding not mine”.
My reply to that is: “Yes, it is my wedding. And in your wedding you did have someone I disliked but I dealt with it because it what made you and your husband happy for your bg day. For my wedding, the people I chosed to be in my bridal party are the people that made US happy and were supportive of our relationship”
Then she replies “Dislike and Hate differ from each other. Doesn’t seem like you’re worried about my feelings at all. ANd youve already made up you mind about what you think. YOu’re not even listening to what I’m saying.
My reply to that: Honestly, I really dont want to stress about this. I seriously thought you’d be an adult avout it and take it. Worried about your feelings?! And you’re not worried about how you’re making me feel right now?! This is my big day and I’m trying to make it special for my husband to be and myself, not to accommodate everyone else needs.
Anyway, she’s still ranting about it to the point where she’s posting a bunch of jibberish on Facebook.. Funny thing that she posted last night on Facebook was “I’m a grown a** woman, I don’t have time for high school”..
Am I wrong for my selection in bridesmaids???? It is my wedding right?!?! and not hers?!?! (LOL!) What do you think BEES??? To me, it seems like she’s being selfish and can’t even put aside her hatred from 1 hour at the ceremony. Anyway, I’m avoiding the situation now.. Ultimately because I’ve said what I needed to say and I don’t need to explain myself further….
O-M-G Bees! I’m so stressed and disappointed in the way she is acting, I really thought she’d be an adult about this whole situation and put her pride aside.