- 6 years ago
Hiding behind an anonymous name.
My mother’s best friend is a wonderful person. I’ve known her all my life, she’s always been an important part of the family. However, she’s.. odd. She’s a very unique person, and as much as we love her, there are times when I want to scream.
The moment we announced we were engaged, she started spamming my facebook. Posting links to articles like “why we deleted our registry and you should too” and things about “alternative wedding ceremonies”. She also sent me some links to super cute DIY things, which I did appreciate. But then, she overstepped when she suggested that her husband do our ceremony (he got ordained in order to do his sister’s wedding). Even my mother was like, “no, no way in hell”. So I politely sent her a message and said “I appreciate that you’re so excited for me. But I haven’t started planning anything, and I really kind of just want to enjoy being engaged for a while before I make concrete plans” and she calmed down.
Until yesterday, when the spam started again with things like “there are plenty of outdoor state parks to hold your wedding at” (no, I don’t do outside, I want inside. Everyone knows this) and “wearing white is really outdated and confining” (I’m going to wear a white dress) and “well, L can be a flower girl, she’d be super excited” (no, we have our wedding party members chosen already) and again “hubby would be happy to do your ceremony, you just have to tell him, he did a great job with his sister’s, and i can sing!” And that isn’t mentioning the 15 messages I’ve gotten in the past two days, pretty much telling me how I should do my wedding, because I “have never planned a wedding before”.
I’m so close to calling her and being like, “Look. I know you’re happy. But calm the *&%$ down. This is my wedding, I’m going to do it my way. That means that we’re getting married in a church, and our reception will be inside, in an actual venue. I have two flower girls, I don’t want you to sing, and I’m going to have a wedding registry. So please, stop. This is not your wedding, I’m doing things MY way”
She’s driving me insane. Normally, I can ignore her. But I can’t do that when she’s commenting on things, or posting on my FB wall, or sending me emails and text messages. It’s like, “Leave me alone please. You’re stressing me out and pissing me off”. But I can’t say that, because she’ll then go to my mother, who will be in the middle and that would be ugly.