- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I know other people have mentioned it on here before, but it really irks me when people throw around the word “tacky” to describe elements of someone else’s wedding.
I pulled the word up on a few online thesauruses, and came up with the following synonyms:
broken-down, crude, dilapidated, dingy, dowdy, down-at-heel, faded, frumpy, gaudy, inelegant, mangy, messy, nasty, out-of-date, outmoded, poky, ratty, run-down, seedy, shabby, shoddy, sleazy, sloppy, slovenly, stodgy, threadbare, unkempt, unstylish, unsuitable, untidy, vulgar, brutish, cheap, common, dirty, filthy, gross, immodest, impolite, improper, inelegant, loutish, low, lowbred, nasty, obscene, off-color, offensive, raunchy, rude, smutty , uncivil, uncouth, uncultivated, uncultured, unrefined…
lmagine if someone described your decor, dress, hair, invitations, choice of eating utensils, food selection, engagement ring, first-dance song, or any other idea that you poured yourself into as “mangy, sleazy, slovenly, vulgar, low-bred”…you get the idea. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinions…but sometimes there are better ways of expressing your distaste for something than to outright call it names. I think that we can agree that, for the most part, many of us spend a lot of time and energy getting things together for our wedding day. Why feel the need to tear someone down? If you don’t like an idea, isn’t there another way you could express your feelings without name-calling? “Yep…not my taste/style/personality…maybe instead you could try X, Y, or Z for reasons A, B, and C” sounds a bit more couth than “OH MY GOD, that idea is SO TACKY!(ie. It looks NASTY and SMUTTY and GROSS and…)” Well…again, you get the point. Ouch. Come on, people.
I just see it tossed around too much in the wedding world…it makes me grimace and put myself in the shoes of the person who wrote the original post, I guess. I know it is only in my wonderful world of imagination that people are all sunshine, roses, and helpfulness instead of hurtful when giving advice (and for the most part, people on this board really ARE sweet and helpful!). If I were the ruler of “Happyland–where unicorns $h!t rainbows and cupcakes and people are kind, supportive, and always carry spare pantyhose and tampons for other women in need”, the word “tacky” would be banished.
Does it get under anyone else’s skin?