(Closed) vent vent vent!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I guess you don’t want to talk to your MOH? Maybe if you just tell her how you feel it might make her realize she is not fulfilling the duties you expect from her. I would try to talk to her and see if you can find out what’s going on, she might not want to tell you the truth because she doesn’t want you to worry about her. If you make the other girl the MOH then it is going to probably hurt your friendship, so I would try to talk it out first and see how that goes.

**HUG**

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I understand how you feel, I let go of two friends along the way of planning my wedding for similar reasons. Me personally, I think friends are there for you to support you, and if they really care they are going to show it. If you don’t think the friendship can be repaired at this point then let it be. Sometimes despite how much we care about people as friends we have to let them go for our own sanity.

That being said, take some time to think everything over before you shut her out completely since she has been your “best friend” up until this point. You don’t want to have any regrets (although trust me I know how you feel 🙂

Post # 6
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am going through a very similar situation with my MOH/”best friend” right now.  I can totally sympathize with being unable to discuss anything with her, and knowing that you’ll lose your friendship if you ask her to step down.

I chose the cowardly way out of the situation, but I think it will benefit us both in the long run.  I am slowly distancing myself from her, although she started distancing many months ago and I refused to acknowledge it, and letting her remain in the MOH position.  After the wedding, I am done.  I just can’t let one day define the future of our friendship, but I know that our friendship is not what it used to be either.  So I am simply letting it all go. 

It might be worth trying in your situation too.  I have had a little time to let the smoke clear, but a week ago I was fire & brimstone angry! If she cares, like Miss Cheeky said, she’ll show it.

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