Post # 1
Waiting for the proposal. We are spending this whole day together and I’ve sworn to myself not to mention “us” once! We’ve been talking marriage/wedding nonstop for months so I’m hoping a day off will give him some of the space he needs to pursue me…sweating it out here.
I have already bought diy stds, thank you notes, made cake topper, pomandres, card box, flower/feather fascinators, supplies to make unity candle setup, favor boxes and filler, out of town bags and tissue, designed water bottle label. Can you tell I really want to marry this man? I have been single for 13 years since other marriage and he IS the one.
OMG, what I day. I did ok although of course I was thinking about “us”. We had a really weird moment where I was running over to pick up his lunch. I asked for his debit card and he basically said no. I’ve given him my pin before! Later he said it’s something he hadn’t thought through to have decided about (letting me use his card/pin). Grr. ALSO remembered that, although he treats me like a queen and is a wonderful man, he has never told me I’m pretty or that I look nice. I have told him this is a problem. I CANT marry a man who hasn’t told me these things! He’s shy, but give me a break!!
Post # 3
I can relate to what you’re saying about needing him to tell you you’re pretty. I know that this issue has caused serious tension in my relationship, to the point of me crying trying to make him understand. His issue was that he prefers to show me that he feels that way, rather than put it into words…which I appreciate, but there’s nothing like an old fashioned compliment.
I think what got through to him the most is me saying that while I appreciate everything he does for me, it ‘s just really important that he verbalize that he thinks I’m beautiful. I told him that it may not seem like a big deal to him, but it made me feel so special and beautiful to hear those words. By saying that I didn’t appear ungrateful for the wonderful way he treats me, but also gave him an incentive to say it more(making me happy!). Hope that helps!
Post # 4
Thanks. I guess we have to have the “compliment talk” again. I probably need to tell hiim that it HURTS me. Thanks.
Post # 5
The whole waiting game is very very hard.. are you still planning on getting married in July of this year?
Post # 6
Doesnt waiting suck to be point blank about it! I am so thankful for WB because there are so many other waiting bees there for support. Since it sounds like you already have started some planning are you just waiting for the official proposal? Are you still getting married in July? If so hopefully it will happen soon for you!
Post # 7
Well, we start couples counseling this Friday. It may be more like October for the wedding, if it is this year. Personally, I just started weight watchers and would like it to be that late in the year so I will look that much better. (need to lose 50 to 100 pounds). Also, I checked the church, reception venue and his out of state sister’s vacation schedule and October 23 is the only date that coincides for all. And yes, waiting sucks sucks sucks but I love him so much and he’s such a good man, I will wait for him.
Post # 8
so what’s the news since a year ago? Any updates? Couples counseling sounds rough- was this your decision? Also, how long have you been together?