Post # 1
So I just received a DW invitation for a Tuesday. Effing really?!?!
DH is the best man, so we HAVE to go.
But he is in his last year of school and has classes on Tues and Thurs.
I am in my second year of grad school and have classes on Tues for one grad. and classes on Thurs for my other grad.
There is no special meaning for the date that the groom knows of. It was just a date they picked and are going with.
I’m mad because it is quite possibly the most inconvenient day for my DH and me. Yes, I am aware that it isn’t about us. But then I think…Tuesday? Really? WTF? Couldn’t have it on a Saturday or Sunday? Who the hell goes with a Tuesday DW?? It’s like I am being dared not to go. And I adore the groom. He’s a great guy, obviously DH’s best friend and vice versa. And we are going to make it work for that reason alone. But if he was anything less than DH’s “brotha from anotha motha,” we would be declining.
Post # 3
I’m going to hope for your sake that there’s some massive revalation coming in the very near future that makes you say, “Oh, well NOW I understand! Good reason! All is forgiven!”
… But I doubt it. I don’t understand weekday weddings in general and DWs in particular. It’s the most difficult to deal with because (IMO) if we all know that weddings can be an inconvenience even under the best of circumstances, it’s that much more intrusive on a working/schooling day.
All I can say is good luck, and I sincerely hope your professors are flexible!
Post # 4
@MightySapphire: What’s the destination? For most resort weddings it tends to be mid-week. If it’s not a resort wedding and just a regular venue then that sucks!!
Post # 5
Oh wow…. that would be hard… where is it?
Post # 6
Las Vegas. Not even a place I want to pay to go to. Mother Effing Las Vegas.
It’s just a personal taste thing, but I really hate Las Vegas. My experiences there have colored my opinion. If it was Jamaica or Hawaii or somewhere I consider NICE I probably would have less of a problem with it (although still a problem). There are cities/places in the world that some people just hate, and for me that loathesome location is Las Vegas.
Post # 7
@MightySapphire: That really sucks :(. Especially since it’s not like you can’t have a Vegas wedding on a weekend! It’s frustrating when weddings are on the weekend to save the couple money, but it ends up costing their guests a ton in lost work time. It’s kind of a personal pet peeve of mine.
I totally understand how you’re feeling, though. I had to miss a close cousin’s wedding because it was a semi-DW afternoon wedding on a Monday or a Tuesday and I would have had to miss finals senior year. 🙁
Post # 8
Hum, well…. not gonna lie. That would peeve me, too. That is a lot to ask people to do on a Tuesday…. I, like you, have impossible Tuesdays. I feel bad enough making people travel for a Saturday…..
Post # 9
That’s strange that the wedding is domestic and its midweek. Must be really cheaper? Does it follow a holiday Monday?
Post # 10
@MightySapphire: I’m not a Vegas fan either, but I live here and have found ways to make it bearable. I posted this on another thread to a girl looking for suggestions on what to do while here, maybe this will help make your stay suck less.
“I know you’ve seen most of the must-see items. As far as clubs/lounges, VooDoo Lounge at the Rio is fun, though MixLounge at Mandalay Bay also has a great view with an outside portion and it’s less crazy and a bit cheaper. Do yourself a favour and get bottle service if you do go to a club or lounge. Mandalay also has Shark Reef, a cool aquarium exhibit. Take a walk through MGM if you get a chance and check out the lions! Mirage has a dolphin habitat. I love walking through Crystals Mall at City Center, the architecture and use of space is cool, but everything is super expensive and designer, Fashion Show Mall has more reasonable prices if you wanted to go shopping.
Check out Fremont Street. It’s old Vegas, and they have a Zip-Line so you can fly about the street. LA Comedy Club in the Four Queens on Fremont that is really reasonably priced with pretty good comedians. If you get a chance to take a drive off strip and like hiking at all Red Rock is BEAUTIFUL. Take a day trip to Lake Las Vegas. If you like country music, Stoney’s Rockin’ Country is a huge country bar, they do line dancing and such.”
Hope that helps.
Edit: Forgot to say, I’m with you, weekday weddings aren’t my favourite.
Post # 11
Hopefully they have a good reason. Unless you “have” to have the wedding in the middle of the week, I can’t see why you’d want to.
DH and I were married on a Tuesday. If we had waited until the weekend to get married, DH and I would have had less than a week together before he had to leave and go back to where he was stationed. So, we opted to be married earlier in the week so we could have a few more days together. I’m sure we inconvenienced some people, but at that point, I really didn’t care because all I wanted was a few extra days with my “husband” before he had to leave again.
Post # 12
Did they not offer the info (date, etc) when they asked your DH to be best man? It just seems odd they didn’t give anyone a heads up before the invites went out.
Post # 13
@heather25: They actually had to switch venues already because it turns out it isn’t cheaper at all, so they had to scale down. (Wouldn’t you check something like that BEFORE you send out invites??) The Monday before isn’t a holiday. I thought about that and if that Monday was a holiday, it would make some sense why they would go with a Tuesday. It’s actually a week AFTER a major holiday.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
Our wedding is on a tuesday ::hangs head in shame::
hehe… Its during spring break though and my FI and I are both teachers. We have a lot of family on both sides that are teachers, also. I’m sure there will be some people who will complain, but they dont have to come 😛 lol
How far from vegas do you live?
Post # 15
@MightySapphire: I would be calling them up and telling them to switch dates (But I am rude). Seriously, do they just want people not to come to their wedding. That being said, midweek hotel prices are rock bottom compared to the weekends so that should be good. If you stay til Sunday and go to the Sterling Buffet at Bally’s please let me know how it is. I am dying to have perrier jouet poured into my mouth.
Post # 16
I know some very religious Jewish weddings take place on Tuesday sometimes (although more often than not, Sunday) but if its in Vegas, then its probably not a religious Jewish wedding 😛
Where are you staying in Vegas? I would stay somewhere nice and maybe that would improve your experience. I got engaged in Las Vegas and it was my first trip, so I’m obviously partial lol. But we stayed in a spa suite in a really nice hotel, and it made the already amazing trip, that much more amazing! Go to a nice dinner at Bouchon in the Venetian – one of my favorite restaraunts!!