- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So this post is really just to vent, since it is a family issue I dont have many people I can turn to. My parents are divorced, have been since I was four, and I have had a step-dad since I was seven. Well my bio-dad lives a while away and it is less than a month before the wedding he wants to change a lot of it. My dad an I dont have the best relationship, Ive always felt it is very one-sided( me making all the effort) so I have not leaned on him to help me make wedding decision, I have used my mom, my FI, and my brothers. The biggest thing my dad is throwing a fit about is that my three brothers, who are groomsmen are not wearing suits, we are having a very laid back lakeside wedding, I have a dress and the groom is renting a tux, but the groomsmen are wearing nice, dress khaki shorts, a white long sleeved button up shirt, with th sleeves rolled up and red ties. My mom and I made this decision a while ago, and now my dad wants to change it and rent suits at the last min. My mom is frustrated with him (it doesnt help that they are divorced) and she wants me to have the wedding I want, so she emailed my dad and said we were not changing everything at the last minute, and that if he wanted input he should have been keeping in contact. He now is throwing a fit, saying that its his daughter’s wedding and he gets a say too, and he has even threatened not to come if my brothers are not in suits.
My view on this is pretty straight forward, I dont like trying to change things at the last min. I feel like the decision has been made and my dad should have brought it up beforehand. I also dont like that he was telling my brother that he would just bring him a suit and he was to wear that without talking to me about it. Now I feel like im stuck in the middle because if I give in to him he will also want to change other things( he does not like that my wedding is not going to be very traditional) and my mom will be upset because that is not what i wanted, on the other hand if I refuse to change it my dad may not come, may make his son wear a suit and he will stand out against the other two. Frustrating!
Ugh, im just about ready to elope, not only do we have this going on but we to change the venue last month (old on no longer would provide power) and Im just worried that everything is going to turn into a mess.