- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I feel very fortunate that I really do love my Future Mother-In-Law. Compared to so many other peoples situations, she’s generally very kind. We even just threw her a 75 th birthday party, very nice, and it cost alot of money that we really don’t evenhave right now. I have to say, I did 90% of the work (and she has 5 kids). But she can be dramatic and bitchy…. Our first fall out was in November-I told her I wanted navy bridesmaid dresses for our June wedding- Holy Cow, she went nuts “you absolutely can NOT use nave, its a fall color, you MUST use a pastel, what are you thinking……” I mean she pinned me to the wall. I was speechless! I am just not a reactive person to start with… I went home and thought about it and after a few days I sent her a nice note telling her why I like navy and that although I know she did not mean to, she offended me, and as far as I’m concerned the issue is over now. (I resisted the urge to say ‘and when you get married again you can do a pastel’ or ‘when someone wants your opinion they usually say ‘what do you think?’…) Things were awkward but finally came back to normal, after she told everyone that ‘now she just feels like she’s walking on eggshells around me’. (and my maids eneded up with pink- that’s what they felt best in, and that was my number one priority for everyone, including Future Mother-In-Law: feel pretty, be comfortable!!! you can even wear white if you want) Anyway, now she’s messing with me!!! She purchased a dark brown winter dress for our June outdoor wedding reception. She said to her son “well, it is heavy but it will be airconditioned’, her reminded her it was outside. Then she said the same thing to me a day later. Why? I asked her f she had a preference for a corsage and she said she didn’t need one (I told her she would have one so if she did have a preference she should speak up.) My fiance has a rotten sister that nobody likes (we debated not inviting her but , O no, we must….) so I asked FMIL if she thought said sister was coming and the answer was ‘YES, she’s sooo excited!’ (just sounds sarcastic) But the real pisser right now is the Rehersal Dinner. Most everyone knows that Future Mother-In-Law would host this thing. We set it up ourselves because she never mentioned it, and we would never let her pay for it, we are a little older and can do it ourselves, but couldn’t she just offer to do something for it?? No. (It hurts my feelings for my finace). Anyway, I told her when it was and stuff and she said “I’ll be there?? why?” and I said “Of course you will be there, you are the mother!” and her answer was “WELL, that is verrrryyyy generous of you”. What is that about???? someone tell me that I’m not crazy and that she is playing stupid and acting like a big ol bitch!!!!! I have gone out of my way for her…. Even after the dress conversation, I bothered to show her stuff and include her, like invitations as such. And my fiance, he just says ‘I don’t know’, like he knows she is acting up (because she is dramatic) and he dosen’t want to deal with it. (which also makes me unhappy). And now she has advanced to calling here and leaving messages expressly for him (we live together). I have five weeks to the wedding (a big one with lots of chores because that is what he wanted) and I want to tear Future Mother-In-Law apart. Thanks for listening. God, that’s long. AHHHHHHHH!! Anyone else????