- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
My best friend of 15 years has never been too traditional of a person, so I don’t know why this surprised me….She’s actually not my offical MOH, she’s my “honourary” MOH, because I chose my sister to be my Maid of Honour. But my friend is kind of a bully and likes to get things her way, she she dictated herself as co-MOH or honourary MOH.
Anyways, she does help me out a lot with planning, but she recently moved nearly 3,000 miles away, so there’s only so much she can do. She’s never had stable, healthy relationships and never wants to get married herself or have kids. (Well, she wants a wedding, just not a marriage), but today when I was talking to her about wedding ring options I told her that since my fiance and I both work in a job enviroment where we can’t wear rings, that we’ve been thinking about getting tattoo rings (roman numerals of the date, so not actual rings, but symbolically). She then said “But what if you guys get divorced, that would be sooo awkward!”
WTF?! Am I wrong to be hurt and pissed off for this comment? My FI and I have been together for over 6 years, we were each other’s first everything. Yeah, we’ve had fights, but we know how to communicate and it’s never once crossed our minds that breaking up would be a better solution than solving the problem. That’s just who we are. But seriously, regardless of our background together, WHY in the world would a Maid of Honour mention divorce to her best friend, the bride?! Why, why, why? What part of “till death do us part” doesn’t she get?
This is the same girl who’s criticized me on having a “plan” set forth – marriage, house, dog, baby, etc, and the years we’d like to have them by and for saving them up. I know she doesn’t get it, she’s young – wants to go out and party and be a 20 something rather. But good lord, she’s known me for 15 years and nearly a third of that time I’ve been with my FI. You think you’d know when to shut your mouth and be polite. I really don’t know why I let her push me around and claim title of “honourary MOH”, she’s not very supportive in my and my FI’s relationship…
UGH. I just wanted to vent. I’m just so frustrated by that comment.