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Hello Bees!  I got married over this past weekend and over all it was really great!!  I have learned alot about what I should or shouldn't have done and I will share that info with you in another post.  

I just have to vent about my Mom.  I love her dearly and she is very supportive, loving and giving.  For some reason the days leading up to my wedding and my wedding day she drove me crazy and seemed to be less then helpful!

Just to give you some back ground on the situation.  While in the planning process my Mom was my "go to" person for advice and support about planning.  She insured me that she would help me out in any way I needed for the wedding.  After discussing the topic of saving money, we decided to make our own hand tied bouquets, corsages and boutonnieres.  My Mom was so excited about doing this, she even took a class on flower design and said she would take over the flowers if things got to busy for me.  

A week prior to the wedding I sent her an email with every detail she would need to know about the wedding.  The times, places to meet and who need to be where, when ect...  So she had been fully informed well in advance of everything she would need to know.

 Fast forward to the thursday before my wedding... We were making the flowers on this day.  My friend let me use her house since it has a huge kitchen with a giant table to work off of (my kitchen is tiny and the only table is equally as tiny).  So my Mom and I went to her house to make flowers....  Long story short - I made just about ALL the flowers by myself.  She took 5 hours to make 2 corsages!!  I could only use my friend's house for the day and so I had to speed up and make all the bouquets (5 including mine) and all the boutonnieres (10).  The whole time my Mom kept asking me questions about the wedding.... things I have told her many many times and had given her a sheet with all the info on it.....  I was feeling pretty irritated with her at this point.

Friday was fine, except that My Mom kept calling me all day to ask questions about the hotel, like do they have a hot tub and when is breakfast served... ect...  Things she could have called the front desk to ask and not called me while I was trying to run some last minute errands before the rehearsal. 

The wedding day - She was supposed to help me set up all the breakfast and coffee for my BM's while we got our hair done at the hotel.  She showed up late and I ended up setting it all up myself.  Then at Lunch time - I had ordered food for the wedding party and parents - Some of my wedding party came in a little late to pick up lunch and right before then my Uncle's (mom's brothers) came in and snagged a bunch of food and left.... Some how they knew where and when we would be having lunch... hmmm who could have told them?? (my mom!)  So, anyway, My groomsmen didn't get to eat because some un-invited guests showed up and took a whole bunch of food.  I only got one little sandwhich because I made sure to set it aside for myself (not that I could eat anyway - I was so stressed and nervous).  

I had asked my Mom to help clean up the room with me before the photographer came - but she took off and left me to do it alone... My BM's were taking care of some stuff in the Ceremony room at the time.  I also told my mom to meet me in my room at 3 so the photographer could get some photos of her helping me get ready.  My Mom never showed up!!  I had to take the photos with out her.

Then group photos came around my Mom and Dad where not where they were supposed to meet us.  We waited for 15 mins before I sent someone to go looking for them.  They were found waiting on the other side of the hotel!!  My Mom had thought that's were they were supposed to meet. (even though I told her many times and she had a print out with all the times and places - I gave her a new one on the wedding day so she had it with her)

Durring photos my Mom stepped on my dress as I was walking forward and RRRIIIIIPPPP!!! She tore a hole in it!!!  (fyi - we did pre wedding pics - so this was all before the ceremony)

My BM's to my rescue with safety pins.  My Mom just laughed it off and said "oh, its fine!"

I couldn't even bare to look at my Mom at this point.  She had not done anything I had asked her too and was less then helpful at that point!

Sorry for the vent... but I needed to get it off of my chest.  It had been bugging me all weekend and when I go to sleep I have been dreaming about all this stuff and I think I just needed to tell someone (the hive) how I felt.

I love my Mom and I know she made lots of mistakes and I don't hold it against her, but she made me feel MORE stressed out then I ever thought I could get.  I got maybe 3 hours of sleep the whole weekend including the two days leading up to the wedding.  

Thanks for reading and Im sorry it was so long. :) 

Hugs!  I'm sorry there was so much added stress on your wedding day!  It does sound like your mom at least had some good intentions, whhat with taking a flower design course so she could help you out.   As long as you're not holding any of this against her, I would try to let it go.  The hive is always here when you need a good vent!

Thanks for reading - its always nice to share your feelings with others.  I thought about talking to my Mom about things, but I feel like it will only make things worse.  I am working on just letting it go and moving on... there is nothing that can be done at this point and in the end it was a wonderful wedding.  :)