Venting – any feedback would help!

posted 2 years ago in July 2014
Post # 2
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2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I say you should do what you want. And it’s up to your bridesmaid if she comes or not. It’s ridiculous that a bar is off limits because of HER boyfriend.

Post # 3
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

venter25:  Agree with PP. Pretty much anything you choose to do, short of the bf coming with you gals, would involve some sort of silly response from the jealous bf. I would say let them plan something and your bm can decide what to do – just don’t be surprised if she doesn’t come (which sucks, but you really cannot plan around someone like her bf).

Post # 4
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I agree with PPs.  It’s ridiculous that he gets to say what she will and will not to in the first place, and I wouldn’t be very accomodating to that, regardless of who he’s related to.  

Post # 5
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Wannabee

venter25:  Dear I honestly think you should talk to your fiance first, make him understand that the main problem is not the location you choose, is that the guy clearly does not want the bridesmaid to go anywhere. Besides it is your PARTY! so whoever attends is because they will do everything in their hands to share such a special day with you. 

Post # 6
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

venter25:  yes, this is crazy. Some soon to be in-law’s bf/FI should not be telling you or your FI where you can go for your bachelorette. Sounds like your FI might be a little under his control too or he would’ve laughed at the request. Also- odd that he doesn’t want his gf to go to the bar he works at where he previously cheated on her with someone. Sounds like he still is cheating and doesn’t want the two girls to be around each other and figure it out. Please tell your FI that you and your gfs want to go to this bar and that a guy shouldn’t get to decide where his bro’s FI can or cannot go for her Bach party. Please do not let these ppl push you into having a Bach party that’s nothing like what you want. 

(Oh and welcome to the bee! If this is your first post and not just your first anonymous post.)

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Is there not another bar you could go to that has dancing?  Maybe a weekend trip away?  I would try to set something like that up (that fits into your idea about what you want for your bachelorette party) and then if your bridesmaid (or her bf) has issues with doing that I would say to her, “we’ll really miss you, but I totally understand that it’s not possible for you to join us this time.”  

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