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I'd tell your MOH to regain the control. She is the one planning it, she is gonna have to tell the girls that she's still in charge. Let her kinda be the 'bad guy'. You shouldn't even involve yourself. She should come up with the plan and let everyone know, if they'd like to participate- great. If not- oh well. Try not to get caught up in the planning of it all, just show up on that day and have a blast!
How is $33 per person too much money? I'm sorry you are having to deal with this crap. If they can't afford $33, how do they plan on buying drinks and dinner when they are out that night? $33 is like 3 drinks at the bar or one dinner...
In my opinion you shouldn't even be aware of this situation. I didn't have any part in planning my own bachelorette party - my MOH, maids and gfs took care of everything and I didn't have a clue what was happening until the night of. It's very disrespectful of your other friend to take over as it's really the MOH's responsibility to plan the bachelorette. Of course it's great for her to have input and financial help from everyone else but in the end it's in her hands. I hope your MOH is able to take back control and sort out the situation and that you have a great time!
Thank you all for your thoughts on this. It's a relief to know that I'm not being unreasonable or getting upset needlessly. My MOH has told me about this because she's known from day 1 that I want to be involved in the plans for the bachelorette, mainly because I'm not into anything too wild. She's informing everyone involved what we're doing that night and hopefully they'll be on board. If not, she and I are still going ahead with our plans and will have a blast!
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Okay dear hive. After more than a year of planning, I REALLY need a good vent (hopefully the hate(bridezilla)-mail won't be too bad
). Sorry in advance for the length.
When I first got engaged, my MOH and I were already talking about what I wanted to do for my bachelorette. She knows me very well and has been really excited about planning this for me. I'm usually a low-key person and we were planning for a two-day event in our local city, which included staying overnight (so we wouldn't have to worry about having to drive back).
When my MOH met with the girls, they thought it'd be too expensive, so we dropped day two from plans. I was completely okay with that, and my MOH and I agreed that we'd just do day two on our own time. She had researched hotels and got a nice rate for one room (which was to be split 4 or 5 ways) but they all agreed to search for a lower rate.
When my MOH later asked if they had found anything the response was that they hadn't and said we'd be staying at one of the girls' apartment instead. It would have been okay if she lived in the city, but she didn't. Instead, they suggested taking a cab from the girl's apartment to the city and another one back at the end of the night (which would probably amount to little less than splitting a room in the first place!). Not to mention, we'd probably have to spend the night on the floor, and that's something my MOH and I don't want to do.
What pushed me, my MOH, and even my FI over the edge was when one of the girls completely changed the plans for the night - even though my MOH is the one in charge of planning it - and sent it to everyone. I'm very upset about the whole thing because this is something that it's very important to me and been looking forward it for over a year. I'm more than willing to pay my own way (even though my MOH doesn't really want to), which puts the room at only $26 per person (and even if I don't pay for the room, it'd only be $33).
I understand not wanting to spend a large amount of money. I'm completely okay with it, as well as paying my own way. What really upsets me is that one girl completely hijacked the planning from my MOH without even asking me what I wanted and is turning the whole event into completely into what she wants.
I'm seriously considering calling the whole thing off, planning it with my MOH and then invite them. If they want to come to any part of it -dinner, dancing, staying overnight, or two or all three- they are more than welcome.
Has anyone been in this situation? What did you do?