- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I live in Japan and its very difficult to organize a wedding from here because culturally its just different from America. For one there aren’t a variety of options available. We have tried them all.
I wanted to have an outdoor wedding and preferably under the cherry blossoms. Its just impossible. There is a traditional festival here that time of the year called, Hanami. People literally camp outside in the parks, set up tarps, bring foods, chairs, tables, blankets, and most importantly alcohol. Its impossible to even walk through any area with cherry blossoms during this time. Why you might ask? Well, its of course the only two weeks that this lovely flower is available to view so people must get incredibly drunk by them and take up space. Actually, its quite fun with friend and coworkders However, this effected my wedding plan.
So onto plan B. A Japanese garden. Ahhh that just sounded like such a wonderful idea. After all I am in Japan with my Japanese fiance. But again I was shot down. The governments pretty much own every Japanese garden as well as the shrines and since I am Christian and not Shinto they completely didn’t get the image of a woman in “White wedding dress” outside with a man in a “Hakama” (aka. man’s kimono).
Hakama example( my guy is way cuter ^_^)
So of course its two different religions so understood. I mean I can’t walk into a catholic church with a Kimono on and start the party!
So I had to put many of my ideas aside. The venue was harder than I ever imagined. I don’t think I have heard the word No so much in one day.
So I would say that after all the things I did understand from park celebrations to the religious matters. The one thing I couldn’t quite get is why hotels weddings ( the standard here with uncoustomizeable options) wouldn’t allow me to bring my own dress. We called so many people and they gave us every no in the book. I even fibbed and said it was my mothers dress to get a sympothy vote and it didn’t make a difference. All they cared was that I didn’t want to RENT my wedding dress. Yes ladies RENT. Japanese women typically enjoy the western style wedding with only a rented option. So I am sure yout thinking oh thats cheap!
Rentals in Japan can run from $500 – $1500. Thats just a rental! Yes you give it back after your 3 hour timed wedding and reception are finished.
Phew so long story short too many differences to adjust to with the wedding part of the culture. However, there is a plus! Japanese guests typically bring from $300 as a present to the wedding to help pay for costs. No gift exchanging. Yay!!!
But, just a little over the top, in return we have to provide extravegant dishes around $100 – $150 per person as well as a very nice present, about $50 to the guests.
Oh well! Thats culture
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