Venting! Difficult and awkward situation!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Justbrynne:  Good thing she didn’t tell me because I couldn’t keep that a secret. Unfair she did that to you. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m pretty sure I would have told her that I couldn’t do that. She should tell him. I’d give her some time, like a week, and then say if you haven’t told him yet, I’m going to. I’d be livid if my FI knew something like that and didn’t tell me.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Justbrynne:  I would urge her to tell him herself. Thats such an awkward burden to bare. It is so nice that she felt comfortable enough not only to confide but to lean on you. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I m sure she had a reason, but I simply don’t see any upside of keeping that kind of secret. I would have told her that I was not going to keep that secret from him, and that she had two days to tell him after he got home, or I would.

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Justbrynne:  Oh wow, that does sound like a really awkward situation. I think I would ask her to tell your FI soon. I would not be able to keep it a secret and I think my FI would be upset if I hid something so important from him. Maybe if you explained it to her she will feel compelled to share the news.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Justbrynne:  yeah as you may know, a lot of people with cancer get treated differently when everyone finds out. Some people just cant handle being treated/thought of differently. 🙁 It is such a hard situation.

I would definitely clarify if the aunt is telling anyone. She may not because it is such a difficulty conversation to have, not because she doesnt want people to know.

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