Post # 1
Before I begin, I just want to preface this that I’m in need of venting. I’m not meaning to sound like a brat, or worse, but I just gotta blow off some steam.
Ahhh! I am tired of answering questions! We’re six days out, so naturally people are going to be wondering about things. My mom called and texted with questions, dad had questions, my cousin called, another cousin called, a bridesmaid called, and then FI called. I literally just told him that I was tired of answering questions, and what does he do? He tells me that he has a list of questions that he had written down and went through them!
I feel bad, I got sarcastic with him. His parents were wondering where the presents were going. I said that I am sure that we have a place to put them, that we wouldn’t let them sit out and be a free-for-all for our guests. Now, I know that response was uncalled for, and I do feel bad about the way I reacted. It’s a legitimate question.
I also know why I got snippy. I hate being asked a question that I can’t answer. I feel like a failure, that I should have all of this ironed out with only six days to go. Plus, I was a little frustrated at FI’s parents for a few previously unrelated items. Plus, I’m stressed with everything we have to do, and that my place still isn’t completely packed up for our move.
Anybody else getting tired of answering questions? I’m just so ready for the planning aspect to be over with. I am still incredibly excited to be marrying my fiance, I’m looking forward to our day, but I am absolutely SICK of the planning aspect!
Post # 3
I’m sorry this is so hard for you, just keep your screen name in mind. When it all seems overwhelming, tell them you will call them back, wait on answering the questions, take a breather. You obviously feel slightly more relaxed on the question part, seeing as to how you feel guilty for snapping, if you don’t have a planner, it reasonable that getting down to the wire you are getting more stressed. Just don’t forget to take a few minutes to breathe in between all of the chaos. And keep smiling 😀 And it’s only 6 days to go, you can do this, you’ve answered questions, done the impossible, organized an event in this long time, you can handle another six days, just breathe and don’t forget to smile 🙂
Post # 4
HA! We’re still over a year out and I’m already tired of answering questions. 🙂
Post # 5
@pinkgreenandyellow: Good call :-). I already feel better just getting it out on a message board. I’m going to call my FI back in a second and apologize. It was just one of those ugly moments. I think I’m going to do something relaxing and get to bed early.
@vorpalette: Just wait…it gets better :-). We had a 22 month engagement, and before that, we had the questions of “When are you going to get married?”. I suspect the baby ones will be coming up soon!
Post # 6
oh my…. I know what you mean! What I’m sick of…. when FI gives me as he calls it “something to think about”. GRRRRR
I’m 13 days out. I’m working on who needs to be where at what time kind of stuff. I hadn’t thought about ICE…. ugh, he was wanting to DISCUSS what to do about ice. I finally said ” I NEED for you to just take care of the effing ice…. I don’t need to be stressed over ICE!” I need for him to just jump in and take care of things without being TOLD and without the needless conversations.
Then I said, ok I need your dad to pick up the boutinierres (sp) the morning of. He repeated himself like 5 times “just figure out where and when” OVER AND OVER while I’m Staring at the schedule. Obviously I’m trying to figure that out. STOP repeating yourself and let me think!!!!.
I know that he is trying to be helpful and let me have “My” day (his words) be exactly as I want it to be. But UGH!!!!!!
Post # 7
Oh, yes, I’m totally with you. We are still a month out and yet people want to know exact times and details of things that I have yet to figure out! Why does SIL who is not in the wedding party need to know the exact timing of the entire wedding day? Arg.
Venting here is good 🙂
Post # 8
I feel your pain! I spent HOURS making a detailed, easy to read wedding website that had more information than our guests could possibly need. All through planning and up to the wedding day itself I’d have family and friends asking me all sorts of questions that were on the website…that apparently no one bothered to access and read…that was on the STDs we sent out.
I finally got to the point where I’d answer just about every question with, “You can find the answer to that on our wedding website”.
Post # 9
My wedding is long over, but I can relate. Today makes me a week past my pregnancy due date and my phone has been blowing up with calls and texts asking me when I’m having the baby, if I’ve had the baby, where’s the baby, why haven’t I called about the baby.
When I have the baby I will do nothing short of holding a press conference, but for now I have no answers, sorry! The moral of the story is, the questioning never ends even after the wedding