- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
When my fiance and I got engaged 7 months ago, one of the first things we picked out was the venue. My fiance’s sister recently got married at a nice venue -which her father got a discount at because he does work for them-, however I did not want to have my wedding there. My future mother-in-law would not let the issue rest. No matter how many times I told her I did want my reception where her daughter had it she would dismiss it and ask again. She pushed me over the edge when she had the nerve to call my mom and suggest it. Thankfully, my mom knew what I wanted and told her no. It should not take my mother getting involved for my MIL to get the picture. In the end we decided on the place my fiance and I wanted. A new problem arose when we told them the place can only hold 300, so 150 for each family to invite. They have known this since the beginning, yet when I asked my MIL for the guest list so I could send the save the dates, she made up excuses and lied about it not being done, even though my fiance said it was saved on the computer. Furthermore, my MIL kept asking for my list so that she could see if she can edit it to add more of her own people. When I wouldnt budge she said she was going to call my mom.. she thinks that if she talks to my mom, my mom would say “ya go ahead, we wont invite our friends & family so you can have more people…” Her next idea was to say she was going to ask my mom if she can invite people after dinner (because thats not rude at all). I dont think she would actually have the nerve to do that, but is just threatening so she can get her way. Also, I would like to point out I do not know 50% of their guest list.. these are all like distant distant relatives or business assocaites, and my list is just family and close friends. It bothers me so much because she had the nerve to tell me on Thanksgiving that my fiance and I ruined it because we didnt go to her house first, and they were orphans and had no where to go. If you cant find a place to go on Thanksgiving, how do you want to invite 200 people, who are these people??? Why doesnt she understand the venue limit? She is driving me crazy… I have witnessed first hand how badly relationships can be between in laws and I dont want mine to be that way, but Im sick of them trying to manipulate and control me, what should I do??