Venue and parent rant- I'm starting not to care!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What the most important thing chosing a ceremony/reception space
    Close to home : (9 votes)
    23 %
    Close to a hotel : (14 votes)
    36 %
    As long as it's pretty : (11 votes)
    28 %
    I'll climb mountains to get wherever the bride wants : (5 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t recommend picking a location based on internet research.  You really need to go see it in person, walk it, see how it flows, and what color the carpet really is (my peeve).  What do YOU really want?  Hopefully you can compromise with your parents.

    Post # 4
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    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think you should pick somewhere close to where you grew up/where your family is.  I also think you shouldn’t be this stressed out since you JUST got engaged.  You do not need to pick a venue immediately.  You’ve got two months to do research, look around, and decide. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    1987 posts
    Buzzing bee

    If you want complete say, you need to pay for it yourself. Otherwise be prepared to compromise with the people footing your bill. 

     

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @MrsYokiman:  Yep. If they’re paying for it, they pick. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2807 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Well I’m from MA and all my family is there so I’m planning this from CO and then flying in to join them.  I’d plan it whereever the bulk of your family is.  And if your mom is worried about drinking then don’t have drinks or have a cash bar and when the supply of drinks is out its out.   If you are having booze then get some insurance for the wedding.

    There any plenty of nice places like your describing but since I am from Central MA I only know of ones on farms like Sterling, Bolton etc and there’s not a whole ton of places to stay.  Or Western MA like Hadley etc but that’s like 3 hrs from Boston instead of just 45 or so minutes.  If you want some say in this throw in some money yourself for the wedding, sit down and talk to them about NH how its cheaper and there would be places to stay near by that wouldn’t cost an arm and a leg for guests or suggest that you have no drinks or a cash bar with beer & wine only so control drinking.  

    Post # 9
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    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @jmLL:  I don’t know if you need any suggestions… I’m getting married at Steele Hill Resorts. It’s an hour and a half from Manchester airport but the venue is a resort so people can stay right there. And it has what you want- get married with a view of a lake and mountains and a sit down dinner! And it was one of the more affordable but nice places that I found. Sorry your parents are doing that to you! It’s your day! They should be supporting you!

    Post # 10
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    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    jmLL:  Just curious… what did you end up doing?

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