(Closed) Venue Changed – How do I un-invite guests?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t include a note but speak to them individually – if it is 35 people that isn’t an enormous amount. It is a delicate situation, so I would just explain it over the phone or next time you see them. Explain it as clearly as you did here.

Post # 4
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@afuturemrsl: yep, if it’s only those 35 people, then definitely call them and explain.

Post # 5
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should be fine with a total number coming in around 200.  I would send the invitations without a plus one and speak to those people directly, letting them know what happened.

You may end up with more regrets than you think and could possibly invite their guests later on if they’re cool with it.

Good luck!

Post # 7
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@vabride2011: that friend sounds like a tool.  i would get back to them and say, “i understand if you do not feel comfortable coming without a guest, in which case we will be sorry to miss you” i.e. shut up and don’t come if you are going to complain

Post # 8
2233 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@vabride2011: Those two friends are out of line! It’s not their wedding, they are a guest and should not be offended that you can’t allow them a guest. 

I went to a friend’s wedding a few years ago and one of the guests, who we were ALL friends with, who has never had a steady girlfriend, nor a girlfriend at the time complained to no end about not being allowed a plus one. The bride only allowed those in serious relationship plus ones, and she knew almost every SO anyway. We all just thought that this guy was rude especially since he told her he wasn’t coming because he wasn’t allowed a date. 

Post # 9
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree – I’d speak to the single guests persaonlly and appologise about the arrangemetns but things change.  I’m sure they’ll understand.  What about not inviting kids?

Post # 10
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would call them and explain that things have changed and they cant bring a +1 anymore. I wouldnt include a note though

Post # 11
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Here’s a thought… what if you send out your probable no’s and see what happens?  Give it a couple of weeks, then send out the rest of the invitations with a better idea of how many can’t come.  You should be okay if you send out the 2nd wave of invitations by May 10th or so.

I agree with everyone else; the “friend” sounds like a total b**ch…

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