Post # 1
My venue has multiple places for the ceremony and receptions. I’m having a lakeside ceremony and just found out that there will be another wedding happening, and I don’t know if the other wedding is having the lakeside ceremony as well, considering there are also churches on site.
The building the other reception will be in is for a larger crowd, up to 350. My building will host my 40-60 guests. Since I just found out about this, I’m feeling like my wedding looks small. I’m happy that we are having a small wedding and that I know everyone very well. I’m just needed some reassurance I guess…
I fear that the other wedding will be louder and more fun looking than mine. I fear that we’ll see bridesmaids and groomsmen and so many people, when all I have is my MOH and my FI will have his BM. I fear that the other bride is prettier than me and their wedding will look so mcuh more expensive…
Ahh! I sound like everyone that I thought I would never sound like. Two weddings on my wedding day isn’t what bothers me, its the fact that I know the other one is going to be bigger and I’m afraid that it will make mine look microscopic.
For the record, I can’t change my date because it’s important to me. We’re getting married on my dad’s birthday, and my dad has been gone for 2.5 years (brain cancer) and I can’t change the venue because I love it too much and some of my dad’s ashes were spread there. I just need yall to tell me that it’s going to be ok, or give me suggestions on how to make mine amazing.
Post # 3
Just because someone has a bigger wedding, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be more amazing than yours.
I had a big wedding and I wish I didn’t. I didn’t even get to talk to most of my guests for more than 10 seconds. My guests did have a blast, but I didn’t. I wish I had something more intimate. And at our reception venue, we were the “biggest” wedding, but I really envied those that had the smaller more intimate receptions.
Bigger isn’t always better.
Post # 4
It’s so easy to drive yourself crazy (I’m guilty of it too!) by comparing your wedding to other weddings – thanks internet.
On the day of, you probably won’t even notice the other wedding; you will be so wrapped up in your day and your celebration. If the venue is used to multiple weddings in one day, I bet they have a way of keeping the parties separate as well; you can always ask them! Just ask for reassurance that you won’t be fighting for photo space, that the guests will easily find their ways from point A to B without being confused by the other wedding, etc. I’m sure they will be able to calm some of your fears.
And I agree with the PP – bigger isn’t always better. I was railroaded during the guest list process and I’m dreading having to talk to people I don’t even know on my wedding day.
Post # 5
What’s the big deal? My venue has two rooms too, one holds 300 the other holds 120, and I have the smaller. They have another wedding that night but they make sure the brides never see each other. You probably won’t even notice.
Post # 6
There is another wedding happening on my day too, their reception is in the next room – as in we share a bathroom. I probably won’t see the other bride but who knows.
I did worry a bit that people from that wedding will be peeking in at mine (also a smaller room than the one next door) but I can’t worry about stuff I can’t control. Maybe I will see her and get a photo with her for fun 🙂
You can’t worry about guests seeing the other party and thinking it looks better. Yours is better because all your guests have a connection to you.