Post # 1
I need your advice. My FI and I are having a terrible time finding an appropriate venue. We are looking for a rustic location that would allow us to choose our own vendors (caterer, rentals etc…), but that would also allow us to provide our own liquor since my FI could have the beer and wine donated due to his job. Our requirements pretty much eliminate all hotels, restaurants etc… With this in mind, we have 2 viable options
- We found a barn that can be rented for weddings (very pretty!), but is about 40 minutes from civilization. It’s waaaaaaaay in the country. This means that there are no hotels nearby etc..
- We found another venue that I love (another barn-style place) in a little town, but it’s nearly 2 hours from our home. However, there are several hotels and the venue is smack in the middle of a little college town.
The issue is that my ENTIRE family has to travel for my wedding regardless because they are from away so the venue 2 hours from my home won’t make a difference to them, but this would force my FI family and all our friends to travel the 2-hours and get a hotel room.
The venue that is closer is so far from everything that cabs are not available to guests to get home safely so I would feel like we would need to rent a bus or something for our guests who would like to indulge J, and this would be an additional cost. It is also more money for vendors to service this place since it is so remote.
All right bees, what do you think? Is it too much to ask your guests to travel and pay for hotel rooms?
Post # 3
@Ms. Stallion: i would hire the coach and transport people to somewhere with hotels, and 40 minutes drive in my opinion is not far to travel at all, the coach would need to be two way tho or everybodies cars would be left in the middle of nowhere. i also think for the people who truely want to share your day with you are prepared to travel.
Post # 4
@stokieGal: Thanks! Yes, we would have to rent a coach for thevenue in the stick 🙂 Thank you!
Post # 5
What do the rest of you girls think? 2 hours too far?
Post # 6
2 hours is not too far at all. I would suggest getting a party bus or something to transport people back and forth from the reception to the hotels. Or see if the hotels have a bus that you can use to transport?
Post # 7
I live in the sticks so I expect to travel 2 hours to go anywhere let alone a wedding. I travel 30 minutes just to buy groceries! We never stay overnight just because something is 2 hours away. I was just at a wedding that ended at 1pm and drove the 2hrs home (of course I am allergic to alcohol).
I think you could go either way. If you do the venue farther away and people drink that much then they will have to get a room. If you do the closer venue and people get sloshed won’t they still have to drive home eventually even if you rent a bus? Or are you planning to drop people off at their houses. Picking people up and dropping them off could become a nightmare.
Have the wedding where you want it and I wouldn’t worry to much about how much people drink. They are adults. They will figure it out. They do it every other night they go out to party.
Post # 8
One of our neighbours had a rustic barn wedding a couple weekends ago and because of parking and distance between their venue and hotels, they hired a coach to provide transport.
As for our actual wedding, we are getting married in Baltimore which is 9 hours from where we live, 1300 miles from where the FIL’s live and an hour from where my family lives. We are providing a night’s lodging to our parents and bridal party the night before and paying for a shuttle to take them to the venue. Since the marjority of our guests live within a 60 minute drive, they have the option to stay at home or drive down the night before, at their expense, so they can participate in/witness the “getting ready” festivities.
Post # 9
Okay bees. Thank you so much. We are going to the barn venue 30 minutes from our home tomorrow, and expect to book it then 🙂 We will hire a coach bus for out of town guests and guests that do not want to drive. Now, just gotta find a deal on the bussing!