Venue / Identity Crisis! Help!

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

mcasey4:  I feel like I could have written your entire post myself. I’m planning a VA (Hampton Roads area) wedding, but living in TX. I had a vision for a small wedding at a small marina, with very laid-back feel, but we’re going to end up booking a community building that is more traditionally elegant –  but a lot more space. Am I sad? A little. But in the end, all the pros of our decision outweigh the fact that I’ll have to re-work my “vision” for the day. We are also having to be extremely budget conscious. Like…less than $10K for everything.<br />I don’t think it would hurt to continue looking, but are there at least some places in the area of the golf club that you and your FI could take photos between ceremony/reception? Virginia itself has so many historical landmarks, you may be able to do a quick photo shoot to get some unique shots. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  AprilinTX.
Post # 3
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think it hurts to look some more, however, it seems you already put in a lot of time and research already. Is there nothing that you can do about sprucing the place up a bit so the pictures are better? 

You can always drive down to a historical area or public park and take more pictures with your immediate family and close friends.

Post # 4
425 posts
Helper bee

With the right photographer and decorations, your place will look and be special! Sometimes those “stunning” venues aren’t so great in person-it’s just good angles and camera work. Also, a lot of those other types of venues (barn, beach, etc) require much more work on your part because you have to do so much on your own… separate tabs for food (which can be hard bc there’s no kitchen on site), liquor, seating, special lighting, tenting due to weather and temperature concerns, etc.

Don’t second guess yourself, it sounds likes the place you found will work great–having a great price and so many things included in that price and proximity to your parents’ house faaar outweighs having that “perfect” venue look. Less work and money for you!

Post # 5
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You coud second guess yourself into the next century and be left without a venue at all.

When you are there in October, make time to scout the area and find those sites that will give you the pictures you want. If you take all the pics you can before the wedding(family portraits, bridal portraits etc), you will have time after the ceremony to travel a short distance to take those pics.

Post # 6
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Don’t second guess yourself.  I always pictured having a rustic or vintage wedding, but our venue ended up being a restaurant with modern decor.  Even the colors I would have used wouldn’t work in the space, so I went in a different direction.  Maybe splurge on some flowers or something else to make it more ‘special’, but it really sounds like this venue is convenient and budget friendly for you, which is most important!  That’s why we went with ours instead of searching for something outside the city that would have been inconvenient for our guests, etc.  Our wedding wasn’t the wedding I had imagined but it was still amazing!!  Here’s a view of our non-vintage, non-rustic wedding!

Post # 7
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC

mcasey4:  I think you’re going to have a beautiful wedding even in what you may see as an “underwhelming” venue! My FI and I are also planning a wedding from far away. We have a really nice venue that we splurged on a little, and I’m STILL second guessing if it was the right decision or if I should have been more cost conscious. Is it too complicated? Will my guests be comfortable? Could I have found a venue I love just as much but more in budget? I think it comes with the wedding planning territory…especially when you aren’t nearby to see things more clearly! It sounds like you really did your research and are getting the most bang for your buck. I say relax, enjoy not having to track down every last fork and knife, and add special personal touches to make your wedding unique. Congrats on choosing a venue! 

Post # 8
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

mcasey4:  it really depends on if you want to take the additional time to go look. I would rather look around and feel 100% about my decision. my photographer did unlimited time/locations on the day of. If you are okay with a first look- then maybe you could get someone to do this same thing and take pictures at another location. Or have your reception there and hold your ceremony somewhere else.

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