- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So we’re having an issue with our venue three months away from our wedding. I’m not sure how to handle this – I’d love to get some opinions on what you would do.
We’re getting married at a private home that is marketed as a venue and that holds 15 or so weddings a year. The flow of the ceremony/reception goes like this – the ceremony is held in an intimate garden on one side of the home, and then guests move into the main area of the home for cocktail hour, and then they move outside to the gorgeous backyard/reflecting pool area for dinner and reception. Sounds good, right? Everything has been great up until now.
We went to the venue a few days ago for a walkthrough and discovered that the owner has installed a massive piece of Burning Man art in the intimate garden, literally right in the spot where we were looking to have our ceremony. The installation, while cool as “art”, really isn’t what we’re going for at our ceremony. The thing is huge – probably 15 feet tall, made out of scrap metal, and looks like some sort of religious pagoda. We are not religious. At all. And the thing makes us uncomfortable as a potential backdrop for our ceremony. It is literally as large as a gazebo or a shed, and apparently it is there permanently. The worst part is that this thing was installed months ago, and we were not told that a huge major change was made to our ceremony space. That’s the thing that disappoints me the most.
The coordinator of the space (who is also our DOC) is really nice, but the prevailing attitude is that we just need to deal with it and either get married next to this big monstrous thing, or move our ceremony out to the backyard area where the dinner will be held (it’s very pretty, but the space isn’t right for an aisle/ceremony as there’s a big reflecting pool in the middle of it, and squeezing our number of guests in for a ceremony in that space will be a tight and weird fit). Also, we really liked the idea of having the ceremony in this garden that is facing the sunset, etc. If the art had been there when we were venue-hunting, honestly, we would have gone with a different venue.
What would you do? Do I have a right to be annoyed, or does this stuff happen? The contract is really basic and doesn’t have any clauses about any of this kind of thing. I also don’t want things to get nasty because this is our venue, it’s really too late to change, and I like our DOC. We might ask them to move it, but not sure if that will work because the thing is huuuuge and we were told it was permanent. Even if it can be moved, who pays for the moving?
I’m just bummed that the ideas and layout that I’ve been planning for the last 6 months are now being upended, just a few months before the wedding. And I feel like now I’m not getting the venue setup that I paid for or anticipated. 🙁
any advice appreciated!