- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Background: My fiance and I found a beautiful venue in Chicago called the Glessner House Museum in January. We made an appointment to tour and were delighted to find that it was small enough to accomodate our intimate wedding size and was within our budget. One of the main reasons we signed with this venue was because of its beautiful courtyard. Since we visited the grounds in January, it was a little bit ragged-looking, but I thought it would be ok since it was in the dead of winter and everything was dead anyway.
We made a follow-up appointment in March with the wedding coordinator to go over details and map out a rough timeline for the wedding. The courtyard was looking fine at the time. Still not blossoming, but again, it was March—still between winter and sprint.
That’s when it started to go downhill: April, May, June and July passed without a peep from the coordinator (who is our only contact at the venue). Finally, after far too many emails and voicemails, we were able to meet with her today. We finalized some details and everything was looking fine until we saw the courtyard. It is in shambles. Dead grass or no grass at all in most places. I’m distraught to think that the amount of money we’re spending on the wedding and the time and effort will be taken away from the condition of the courtyard. We’re now a month away, so there’s not enough time to re-sod. Our only options are to deal with it and hope that having the decorations and furniture in place will take detract from the (lack of) grass OR rent the public park next door for the ceremony for an extra $625.
My question to you girls is twofold:
1) Do you think it would be unreasonable to ask the venue if they could refund some of our money? Afterall, we signed a contract under the assumption that the venue would be at a presentable condition (though the condition of the courtyard, specifically, wasn’t under scrutiny) and we could reach the coordinator (again, our one and only contact at the venue) for months. That way, at least, we won’t have to break our backs paying to rent another place out just for the ceremony if we feel the courtyard is beyond saving. Honestly, I don’t mind how it looks for the cocktail hour or dancing—I just just want to the ceremony against a nice setting.
2) I’ve attached a photo of the courtyard. Half the courtyard will populated with chairs for the ceremony the half in the photo I’ve attached will be where the bridal party and I will proceed down the aisle. I can’t help but think that I’ll look back at my photos and be distracted at the condition of the lawn—and that this will be my guests’ first reaction as well. My BMs have all reassured me that it’ll be fine, and that all eyes will be on me and the decor, but I can’t convince myself otherwise. We’ve asked the coordinator to send photos of the two weddings that will be held in the courtyard this weekend to get a better idea of what the space would look like with everything in place… Do you think having it dressed up will help detract from the lawn?
I know this was long, so if you got down here, thank you for reading through. This has been stressing me all day, and we’re so close to the wedding. If we make any decisions to change the venue (just for the ceremony), we need to do so *right now*.