- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
@sbruin99: I think what you should do is make a list of what your budget will be for all the extras you will need.
Flowers (but if i understand correctly, this is included in your venue price?)
Save the Date (you don’t have to send a save the date, if you do there are inexpensive ways to do this)
Favors (this is not required but its nice if you have it in your budget)
Rehearsal dinner (if you are having one)
Gifts for Parents and Bridal Party
I have tried my best to make up a complete budget ( spreadsheets are my best friend) but I just don’t really know if the amounts I have are reasonable. ( I included it below, and well as you can see I am already running a deficit). I am more or less doing this COMPLETELY on my own. I think this venue is a good deal compared to some of the other places I have looked at but I am scared it’s still to expensive.
Ceremony Venue – $250.00
priest/commisioner – $300.00
Flowers/ Decorations – $100.00
Total – $650.00
Reception Venue – $1,000.00
Flowers/Decorations – $500.00
Food – $6,000.00
Total – $7,500.00
Dress – $1,000.00
Accessories – $200.00
Suit – $500.00
Photography – $2,000.00
Bouquets – $500.00
Gifts – $600.00
Stationary – $200.00
Hair & Makeup – $300.00
Rings – $2,000.00
Total – $7,300.00
Grand Total – $15,450.00
Budget Amount – $10,000.00
Surplus/Deficit – (-$5,450.00)
@sbruin99: Cut flowers from the ceremony and just do the wear & carry. Suit and gifts can be way less than that. My husband’s tux rental was actually free since the groomsman rented their tuxes from the same shop. And we spent less than $300 on wedding party gifts. Rings can also be a lot more or less than that depending on what you want.
For comparison, our venue was $3000 and food/drink/cake was $7,300 for 48 guests.
Thanks Christy! Rings are the only thing I am pretty close to bang on – we have picked them out already ( well mine is picked for sure and we have a pretty good idea on his).
I am just estimating as I have not done ALL the research on little things yet – trying to decide on the big things. I was debating pretty much keeping the flowers and the gifts. I know the one place we were looking at renting from had a similar deal but I figured I should plan for spending money and then be happy if we didn’t need to.
@sbruin99: sign up for groupon and keep on the look out for some vistaprint invitations. I think you can get between 50-100 for $17 or something like that, just keep on the lookout for it: http://www.groupon.com/deals/vista-print-42-worcester
I got my flowers from Sams club online. It only cost $294.xx for the entire WP’s flowers plus my 2 bouquets (one to toss) and flower petals for the FG. I just had to clip them! The price depends on which wedding collection you choose on how much it costs: http://www.samsclub.com/sams/shop/product/templates/samsShop_productTypeIndex.jsp?altQuery=&searchTerm=&rootDimension=2640101+4294937812&brand=&searchCategoryId=1640101′ defer=’defer
Also for the BP gifts (or anything else like bridal accessories!), check ebay or etsy. You will be surprised a the amazing deals! I got my 3 BMs custom hangers from etsy for $4 ($4 each for shipping but thats STILL a good deal!) I got my veil and jewelry from ebay (jewelry–necklace and earrings–$10, veil $89 when it would have cost me $160 from DB)
@sbruin99: You could contact the venue, and ask if they could reduce the venue fee or the F&B minimums if you do a Sunday wedding (or another day of the week), if that’s an option. Or ask about off-season pricing, if you are flexible on your dates. Lots of bees report that they’ve had success calling vendors, telling them what their budget is (i.e., “We have 5000 for venue & food”) and often vendors will work with you on pricing.
In your budget, I think you could easily cut the cost of rings in half (from 2000 to 1000) or less, especially if you’re willing to get something simple (white gold, or tungsten for him) – check out ebay, pawn shops, or etsy.
You’d likely be able to find a cheaper dress (maybe 500 instead of 1000), if you’re willing to consider second-hand, or China replicas, or even David’s Bridal. You may be able to cut your accessories budget in half, especially if you can use jewelry you already have (or borrow from others!), shop for sales on shoes, shop on etsy or used for veil, etc. You could cut your gifts budget substantially, too (skip favors, and do something heart-felt / home-made for bridal party and parents). You can do your own makeup or get it done just for the cost of a few items of makeup from the jewelry counter at the mall (my sister used Mac and had a great experience). Just some thoughts – good luck!
@lindseyl06: Thanks! Ya I will for sure be looking for any and all deals. It is nice because I do have quite a bit of time to try and shop around. I really just want to get our date and venue locked down. I feel like those 2 things will shape the rest of everything. I just wish I knew how to pick the venue and whether its a good price/options.
@LittleByLittle: Unfortunately, that cost IS in the off season and it is a Monday. I haven’t really tried to negotiate or bring the cost down yet with the venue. We are not to flexible on the date – we are getting married on our 10 year anniversary. Thank you for all the advice on ways to try and get things cheaper. I tried to budget big because I figure it is better to go high and come in low.
@sbruin99: I’m also from canada… I’m wondering if you can find a venue in the Rockies that’s NOT Banff. I don’t know for sure, but I’m guessing things are going to be much more expensive in Banff since it’s such a touristy town? Again, I imagine you’ve looked into this, but that would be my suggestion.
@tallierand: I looked at maybe Waterton or Jasper and they are definitely cheaper but they are also more of a drive for my guests. So, I haven’t really decided if they are a viable option. I have looked at couple places in Canmore and the surrounding area but the prices all suck. lol. I think I need to throw out all my “research” and start again. Take better notes etc.
I voted no in your poll (mainly) because of one reason: your venue charges $1000 (10% of your budget!) just to BE there. THEN you have to spend more money on food and drink. To me, that seems like too much of a waste.
You and I have a VERY similar budget and no way would I let 10% of the budget go toward “nothing.” My suggestion would be to consider out-of-the-box venues (eye-roll, I know). I know everybody and their sisters, mothers, and friends tell you this, but see if you can try to unearth something other than what everyone else knows about.
For my wedding, we’re going about 40 minutes away from my home-town (not too bad of a drive) to a local ski area and doing the whole shebang there. Since we’re farther away from the big-hub city, our venue is much more off-beat (anybody ever riden a chair-lift in a wedding dress!?), and a MUCH better deal. Double win!
@tallierand: Well most of my guests will be flying into Calgary and then they would need to rent vehicles and drive from there. Banff (and area) is about an hour from Calgary vs 3 ish hours to go to Waterton.
@castaway83: I guess that’s a really good point. I don’t really know what a reasonable amount would be. 🙁 I have been looking for about 5 months now and still haven’t found anything that I think fits what I was hoping for “venue feel” and budget. It’s hard because I just feel like I have to keep giving things up.
@sbruin99 I totally get how you feel. I’m guessing that for you, this will be the hardest part, because not only do you have to find a place to get married that you love, but you also have to decide how much budget to devote there! I wouldn’t give up yet, though. You still have time and being an off-season wedding makes your competition a little less fierce.
Just for comparison, my venue does not charge a “usage” fee for reception. We are also using them for our ceremony, which costs us an exta $125 (but we’re using one of their staff as an officiant – and he charges only $25!!!). I’m going to attach my budget, just so you can get an idea of what my $10k wedding will be like. (Wedding will be 150 people in the greater Madison, WI area – on a SUNDAY)
$0 – Dress, veil, alterations (Gift from my mom – Dress was $800 sample IN MY SIZE)
$400 – decorations
$120 – marriage license
$500 – limo (WP & bride/groom from venue back to hotel)
$4200 – Ceremony & Reception (includes officiant, appetizers, plated meal, cake cutting, gratuity, staff set up of my decor, hosted beverages for WP, and more)
$500 – DIY flower centerpieces, bouquets pre-made online, bouts/corsages from grocery store
$300 – STD’s, invites, programs, Thank you cards, guestbook & postage (VISTAPRINT!)
$425 – Cake (2-tier decorated display cake, 2 sheet-cakes in the kitchen)
$600 – Favors, WP gifts (4 BM, 4 GM, 2 ushers)
$500 – DJ (includes unlimited hours of cocktail & reception music)
$250 – Hair/Make-up/Nails
$250 – Fancy Bride/Groom hotel suite for the night of the wedding
$581 – Wedding bands (mine is a plain 3mm rose gold band, his is a gorgeous 6mm white & yellow gold band from Etsy)
$8526 = TOTAL (and clearly, I still have playing room for any issues that can/might/will come up!)
Things you probably don’t notice a photographer – my parents are paying for our photographer ($3k) for us for our wedding gift. Also, worth noting – although we’re having a Sunday wedding, we didn’t really get any $$ savings from that. It made it a lot easier to book venors, though!)
@sbruin99: is your FI planning on buying or renting? if he is renting you can rent for wayyyy less than $500.
Cut the flowers from ceremony, it is not necessary
You can def save money by DIY projects!
I think you can find wedding bands for both of you for less than $2K, price around.