Post # 1
I’ve come across a huge problem! My FI and I found what we thought was the perfect venue, months and months ago. Y esterday, after being inspired by fellow bee’s, I looked around on google and found the perfect venue.
Why I didn’t close the page immediately, I just don’t know!
It’s my dream venue. I will regret it forever if I don’t have it here. I told the FI about it and, as expected, he didn’t want to change it until he saw the pictures of the new possible place. Unfortunately, our wedding date (also our anniversary) is not available. We want to get married on a Saturday but there aren’t any available until November. He says no to November and that he wants to get married in July.
What would you do? Go bridezilla? Wait until November? Have it on another day? Or wait a year to have it close enough to the date you wanted?
Post # 3
The way we picked our date was which date was available. we ended up with April. We never had any intention on getting married in or around April. But, I fell in love just like you, and nothing else would be good enough. You have to decide what is more meaningful. Is it the date that you wanted? Or is the location going to make your day perfect? In my opinion, a day is just a day, and what makes it special is after you are married it will always be your anniversary. Our venue, however, was everything I never knew I dreamed of. And November is much nicer than july, in my opinion ; )
Post # 4
Can you get out of your contract with the first place? That might be a factor to consider.
Post # 5
dreambml, I completely agree. We’re checking out the venue today to see how it looks in person. I’ll put it the way you said it and see if anything changes!
MJ, fortunately we haven’t made any contracts yet. We’re in the planning but not paying yet stages. That starts next month when I start my new job.
Post # 6
Ah, well that’s good!
Just decide what’s most important, keeping your anniversary and having the date you want, or the venue. I have to say that for me, once I’m inside it’s a room and the focus is on the couple’s choice of decor, band, food, etc. But, if this place is outside, has some place where your ceremony will be that’s amazing, or something that is worth it to you, that might not apply.
I think this is one of those gut feeling decisions that we won’t be much help on! And, good luck witht he new job!
Post # 7
If it’s money you’re spending at the end of the day, wouldn’t you want to spend it on something that you LOVE and not just like if the one you LOVE (absolutely LOVE!!!!) is within your budget?
November sounds a lot more romantic than July. 😀
Do you have any other significant dates you would like to have your wedding on?
We fell in absolute-crazy-swirling-butterfly love with our current venue and really wanted our wedding date to be on our dating anniversary. Turns out the sucker was booked through 2009 around the same time each year when I called back in 2006 to inquire about availability.
We ended up going for that same venue and changed our date (to the weekend we met!) instead because we loved it that much. See what happens when you see it in person. It may change some things..!
Post # 8
We kinda had the same situation. We had originally planned on being married the 24th of June 2006, mostly because I loved the summer, but did not want to be married on Father’s Day weekend or near the 4th of July. We had our venue, but then ran into complications, not necessarily date, but just plain complications. However, there were no other venues available in June.
I fell in love with this one place, and low and behold, she called 2 days later to tell me the weekend BEFORE opened up..so June 17th it was. It actually is more meaningful, as we started dating on December 16 6 years prior, so those couple of days are always sentimental (in a really sappy way)!
I am so happy I made the change!! Our actual location was sooo much better than the first, and it made our wedding day so much more special!
Post # 9
Oh man… I really appreciate the responses! We checked out the new venue yesterday, but couldn’t go inside as some other event was going on. We will see the inside today, in two hours!
My honey liked the outside, as it looks less simple and plain than the other one. Also, there isn’t a road where people are driving and walking by, staring in. It’s much more secluded. I also like it because you can see so many landmarks from it, there are beautiful cyprus trees right outside the windows, a pretty little chapel in walking distance if we choose to marry there, and and and…..
Yeah, I want this place.
My maid of honor, because of her job, may even get us half off on the location! And to add on, the good thing about moving it up 4 months is we’d be able to save so much more money, and make even more wedding dreams come true. Now for convincing him to change our date! *crosses fingers*
Post # 10
What is the most important to you? Price, location, overall happiness of family..
I found this one place that seriously was jaw droppingly gorgeous. The lady who took us around the grounds bragged that they were the best, and they knew it – and that this place ruins brides for all other reception venues. However the price per person was quoted to us at $250 for Saturday afternoon. And it was more for Saturday evening.
So I gave up on that incredible place and found another gorgeous venue. No, it’s not the Ritz Carlton, but it’s amazing as well, and a LOT cheaper. I am thoroughly happy with my final decision.
Post # 11
We couldn’t pass it up! My love and I realized that the location really was that of our dreams, and we decided to change the date! =) And.. the funny thing is that we always said we never wanted to get married in a chapel, but there’s an ADORABLE one in walking distance, and it’s very neutral, so it’s perfect for us! Thanks to all the responses! =)