Post # 1
Our wedding is 9/13/14, booked our outdoor event farm wedding in July 2013. The venue is a very large farm and the property is separated into different “sites” separated by lines of trees. Think of it sort of like a park with different picnic areas. At the time of the booking, we asked if the venue held more than one event on the same day and was told no.
So I googling images of the venue today and happen to see two wedding websites of two different couples having their wedding on the same day. Umm…what? So I call the venue and found out that we recieved misinformation. The orginal girl that we booked the venue with left the company a while back but the venue coordinator that we’ve been working with for the most part is on vacation so we talked to some other person that works there. He explained that there would be no way they could pay the venue’s mortgage if the only had one event per day. He checked their calendar and apparently there are two other corporate events going on the same day at my wedding but they end right when my wedding is supposed to start. I was obviously worried that their events could go over time and there would be music blasting while I’m trying to have my ceremony. He assured me that the music would be cut off right at 4pm when my ceremony starts. Understandably, I have my doubts. We’d also have to deal with the attendees from those events leaving while our guests are arriving. He then tells me that I shouldn’t plan on having my ceremony start at 4pm because weddings never start on time anyway and that I should plan to start the ceremony at 4:15pm. I didn’t want to get into it with him over the phone but with the processional and ceremony, I am pretty sure we are looking 30 minutes from start to finish. I don’t think we have the liberty to postpone our ceremony in order to wait for things to settle down.
We can’t do anything about this, but I am highly annoyed that were were given misinformation. I have also had multiple e-mail conversations with our venue coordinator and she never mentioned that there would be other events happening on our day.
Has anyone else had to deal with multiple events happening at their venue on the same day? Did it turn out okay?
Post # 2
My wedding had an outside chapel and two venues for receptions. There was a wedding right before and right after mine at the chapel and a reception at the same time at the other hall. It was no big deal at all. I even talked to the guests at the other reception as they walked by ours because they stopped to congratulate us, too. Nothing interfered with ours and it was actually kind of neat to see another couple celebrating as well. The venue was very good about making sure the other ceremonies started and ended on time and nothing overlapped or interfered in any way with ours or with theirs. And there was plenty of parking for everyone. We had no problems at all.
Post # 3
purple_orchid: i can certainly understand your frustration at now dealing with 2 events at the venue on the day of your wedding after initially being told there would be none. however, try not to stress and let this ruin your day. 🙂
the venue coordinator assured you that the other events would be ending as yours is beginning, so it sounds like it should be fine. so what if your guests are parking at the same time as others are leaving? that doesn’t sound like a big deal to me. and if your ceremony is only 30 minutes, and the coordinator suggested that you can start at 4:15…that doesn’t seem like a big deal either? i mean, be honest: most weddings (at least literally every one i’ve been to) don’t start on time. if the invitation says 4, to most people that means they should be there by 4, and things will start shortly after.
if they tell you that you have to share the actual site at the venue, then freak out. for now, it sounds like there’s not really a problem other than initial misinformation.
Post # 4
purple_orchid: Honestly? I would be pretty annoyed.
Don’t get me wrong — you will have a lovely day. My BFF was married somewhere that holds 3 weddings on most Saturdays in June (which is when she was married!) The other weddings never interfered with hers, and it was fun to see all the brides at the bar celebrating together after their respective receptions were over.
That being said, it was absolutely off base for them to suggest that you start your ceremony time later than you tell your guests. The time on the invitation should be the start time of the ceremony. It’s not fair to punish your guests who are early/on time because others are late. This is what annoys me the most about your venue. I would certainly stand my ground on this issue.
Post # 5
Yikes I’m sorry. At least they aren’t other weddings going on I guess? Maybe they could offer you a reduced rate on something else (food? alcohol?).
My brother was supposed to have his venue for the whole day (and they paid for it to be ONLY them), and the venue still let another bridal party in to take photos on the grounds. It was extremely shady of the venue and they argued that “technically there was no second ceremony”. It was super awkward for his guests to be seeing some other bride walking around before the ceremony…
Post # 6
I think this is pretty common. Were you told that another event couldn’t be booked? Just because you were told there wasn’t one planned, it didn’t mean that they wouldn’t have added an additional booking at a later date.
Post # 7
AB Bride: We were specifically told that they would be catering other events off the premises but that we would be the only event at the farm that day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
purple_orchid: That really really sucks. We were worried about that kind of thing so we were happy to find a venue that would allow us to have it all to ourselves for the entire day (it’s actually written in our contract so it would be a breach if they went and booked something else). I think that it’s quite ballsy to tell you to start your ceremony later than you had originally planned – it’s kind of too late since obviously the invites have gone out. I guess you should wait until your actual coordinator is back to talk toher about all of this. I would also feel miffed because I would feel missled. While your wedding will probably be just fine, it’s the fact that they told you one thing and the opposite happened. Unfortunately there isn’t really anything you can do about it unless it was in the signed contract so I would try to let it go. The silver lining is that there isn’t an event happening at the exact same time as yours.
As for your worries … I would only be worried if they are not used to doing more than one event at a time. I went to a wedding at a place that could have up to three at a time, plus have shows happening and it was still fine. They had a spectacular chef. The coordinator? A little iffy but it turned out really nice. There are a few other places that I know if in town that will hold more than one wedding and they have good reviews. I wouldn’t be worried about it.