Post # 1
A lot of the bees have spoken about dress regret but I’m wondering if any of you have had venue regret?
My fiance and I looked at a lot of great reception venues and to be honest I liked them all and was having a hard time choosing. My fiance really loved one of them so we ended up going for that, with a cermony venue at a beach park about 10 mins away by car.
I am now thinking of changing venues to somewhere which I hadn’t previously thought of, a bit more casual, closer to our home and much easier for people to get to, and where we can have the ceremony on site, therefore avoiding the need for people to travel a long way and then travel between venues. People are already travelling from the UK, USA and NZ to be at my Australian wedding so I want to keep things simple. Both venues are by the beach.
I don’t REALLY love either venue, and we can afford both (although the second will be about $3k cheaper). If I cancel the first venue we lose part of our deposit but I factored that in to the $3k price difference.
Just wondering if anyone else has had this issue and if so how did you decide what to do? Thanks for your help and sorry its so long 🙂
Post # 3
@Ladydazl: I’m pretty sure that some other bees in the hive have had venue regret and have changed, but I’m not sure who right off the top of my head.
I’m curious… have you talked to your Fiance about wanting to make the change? I only ask because you said you liked them all, but he really loved one of them.
Post # 4
we have talked about it and we are going to look at the other venue together on the weekend, to see if he gets a “vibe” from that place too!
Post # 5
@Ladydazl: Well there you go. I think if both of you agree it would make for a better choice and you won’t be out anything that your budget can’t handle, then go for it!
Best of luck! Hope it all works out.
Post # 6
I can totally relate! We booked a local country club ballroom for our wedding, and have been freaking out ever since because I relized that our guest list is really small…so we’re going to end up with a venue meant to seat about 250 for a group of about 60. Now I’m panicking on how to take up space so we don’t get lost in the room. Ultimately, at the end of the day, you need to do what makes you happy and what you can financially afford to do! I agree…go take a look at the other venue together and see what you both think!
Post # 7
I had major venue regret. I live out of town, so my mother did the legwork. When I finally got to visit the place, I realized it had a really weird set up, marginal food and lots of extra charges. I didn’t end up changing it and kind of wish I had, although everything worked out in the end.
As a guest, I don’t think traveling 10 minutes between locations is a big deal at all, especially if I’ve already traveled thousands of miles.
Post # 8
We originally decided on this
but when the all the paperwork came for us to complete, along with sending the deposit, I got really scared. Because of the cost, we were going to have a marquee, and also the amount of organising involved. It was my dream venue ;(
Because neither Fiance or I have got a big family I sometimes think I should’ve had a destination wedding but it’s not what I wanted, I wanted a traditional wedding.
Post # 9
I agree – bring the Fiance and see what he thinks. Also, it depends on the kind of person you are – if you are having venue regrets now, how will that be compounded over the next few months while you are planning? Usually, once I notice something about a place I don’t like, it is all I can focus on. So I’d say, as long as your Fiance is in agreement, cut your losses and change venues!
Post # 10
I had venue regret, we paid a deposit for a hall.. it was a church community hall.. it was simle and AFFORDABLE at only $800 for 8 hours. but then we found out if we wanted round tables there would be an additional charge of 200 which wasnt really the deal breaker, untll we attended a xmas event at hall that was wayyyyyyy nicer and didnt need as much decoration as the community hall. Infact the community hall just seemed ulgy to me after I saw the other place that had a built in dance floor, bar and nice foyer.. we switched right away and lost our deposit on the first hall
Post # 11
Can I ask WHY you are thinking about changing?
It just sounds like you are kinda MEH about both anyway? So what is really making you thinking of changing from one to the other?
How far away is the first one compared to the second one for you guests to travel?
Post # 12
Thanks for your feedback, guys. I feel better knowing I’m not the only one. We are going to look at the other option today before deciding what to do.
The first venue is about an hours drive and then a 10 min drive between venues. There is very liitle public transport so we were thinking of hiring a bus to help people get there. In reality that is getting a bit difficult to organise since we need to book the bus well in advance and we don’t know for sure how many people are coming or if will want to use the bus yet. Plus its quite expensive.
The second venue is a 5 min drive away from our house and walking distance for most guests (or a short bus or ferry ride). The ceremony and reception can be held on the same site or a short walk (200m) from eachother so its easier logistically.
Post # 13
So we went to look at the second venue option, and although it was cheaper, it was a BIG reduction in terms of quality. We talked about the reasons we chose our original venue and remembered why we liked it, and decided to stick with it!
I feel a lot happier now!
Post # 14
i had venue regret, when i saw a much nicer one only 3 days after paying a deposit on ours, of £200.
but luckily as it was only a few days, they actually gave us a full refund, and now i am so happy with the venue we have…