Post # 1
FI and I want to marry in Hilton Head Island, SC. The whole island has a 10pm noise rule. One venue which we LOVED is right on the beach, really close to other villa’s. They were pretty firm on the 10pm rule.
The 2nd place we liked had a beach ceremony and a shuttle to take guests to their golf club reception (about 3 minute drive). They have full length windows that completely open to have a “half outside/half inside” reception, but if we move it inside at 10pm, we can continue until about 12am. I guess being a golf club, they don’t have people close enough to be bothered by noise.
Anyways, I wanted to know if anyone has ended a wedding or been to a wedding that ended at 10pm? This seems way to early to me, and can’t really imagine everyone leaving at that time. Our friends are the type to stay out pretty late.
Our only other thought would be to rent a villa beside the venue and have some guests come next door and continue to party (with a lower volume). Or just go with the 2nd venue.
Does anyone have any thoughts?
Post # 3
@memo: I think it depends on when you start and the day. For a sunday or weekday wedding, I would think 10pm would probably be about right, however for friday/saturday I would think it’d be a bit early. If I were you, I’d probably go with the second venue based on this.
Post # 4
Is there a bar near by where you could host an after party?
Post # 5
@memo: We were just at one a few weeks ago. They had the after party at the hotel bar, and I hear it went pretty late. We were still on east coast time and we’re not really the type to stay out late anyways, so we called it a night at 10.
Post # 6
I think 10pm is pretty standard for some places – especially places like what you described. What time would the wedding be starting? I think, even at a wedding, people are ready to go around that time anyway. Sounds kinda sucky, but it’s true. I love my friends, but I don’t mind leaving around then or a little earlier so we can get home to the dog.
I would maybe just do a loose invitation to a bar or something afterward for everyone to keep the party going if they want! 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve been to several weddings that end by 10pm. This seems to be a big thing now with the noise ordinances. I think it’s no big deal. Pick where you love, and you can have a little afterparty if you like.
Post # 8
@memo: i wanted to get married in a historic building. annapolis had some beautiful venues but also had the noise ordinance that all music must stop at 10pm.
we wanted our party to go until midnight, so we looked elsewhere and found an even better venue.
since you can move your party inside and party until midnight at the golf course that sounds reasonable.
i went to a friday wedding that started at 5:30. i think i was home by 11.
the start and end time don’t matter, it’s the fun you have while there.
Post # 9
@memo: Our ceremony begins at 4 p.m., and the reception has to end at 10. I didn’t love that initially, but the price for the venue was right. I just figure if people still want to hang out, we can have an informal after party or people can go out to other places in the area to continue the fun.
The other day, I read something that said it’s better for a party to end while it’s still going and while people are having a good time rather than to drag it out until there are only a few people left. I haven’t thought about that enough to decide whether I agree, but it made me feel a little better about my ending time. At least people will feel like they were having a good time the whole time.
Post # 10
I’ve been to one! It officially ended at 9. It was a pretty bad wedding though, so people were leaving before the cake cutting (like 6:30 pm).
To be fair, they had a “cocktail hour” from 3-5… With no food, and a cash bar. Then there was one buffet line for 250 guests, so it took 2 hours for everyone to finally get their food! By the time they opened the dance floor at 7, I’d been there for 4 hours and was ready to leave!
I think as long as you start dinner at like 5, you’ll have plenty of time for fun and dancing before the end of the night!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@memo: Do the venue where you have the option to move inside and keep partying. This is the option we chose for our beach wedding since the 10pm noise ordinance is just as firm in St. Augustine Beach. We rented a private beach house for our venue and we expect around half of our 50 guests to have left by 9pm anyway. So around 9:45pm we will start moving the party people inside our private beach house to make sure everyone is inside by 10pm to comply with the ordinance.
Post # 12
@memo: it seems early to me to i found an estate i iked that had the same kinda rule and b.c. its noise thing for he area there is no working around it u must be packed up and gone at 1030 … i had to stop wanting that venue b.c. i was thinking tis improtnat we party late lol
i guess an option would be do a sunday ppl will wanna leave early anywyas so it wont be noticed and start early
Post # 13
Our Venue has a “must be cleared out by 11” rule…which basically translates to we must be finished by 10pm. I think its getting to be more common depending on the venues. A friend of mine got married in June, and since their venue did the same thing, they had an “afterparty” to let the party continue 🙂
Post # 14
Ours ended at 10, and it was awesome. People danced for hours, got their fill, etc.
Post # 15
@hazyleyedbeauty: How did it go during the after party? Part of me worries that stopping the dancing and moving it will kill the vibe, and part of me thinks “after party” is a highschool thing, and we don’t want it to have too much of a casual vibe.
@housebee: It would be a destination wedding (we’re from Toronto), and it’s a Monday, but no one would be working the next day anyways.
@StephieBee: They start the ceremony at 5 or 5:30. Our one thought would be to do our photos together and wedding party before the ceremony, and then just do a few family shots after but skipping a full cocktail hour and starting the dinner early.
Post # 16
@SeaSalt: There isn’t a bar close by because it’s a gated community, but our thought was to rent a villa next door and continue there