Venue & Vendor Tipping

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

1.   If venue charges gratuity (most do where I live), you do not have to tip.

 

2.  General rule is if the vendor is boss or self-employed you do not have to tip.  If you are going to a salon, and person doing H & M is not owner, I would tip 20%.    For photographer,  I would recommend not  major tipping till you get ALL pictures.video done.  If main one is owner, tip second guy say $100.

Post # 5
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The idea is that the owner/self employed determines fee or charges, an employee does not.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have concerns about tipping too.  As a service industry veteran, I definitely don’t want to leave someone unpaid!  Our catering company does not include gratuity.  With a possible $3000 price tag, I’m not sure the standard 20% tip is doable for us!  Is there a good dollar amount for say, each server/bartender there?  I’m sure they get paid an hourly wage to cater (I did when I worked for a country club that did weddings & events), but know that cash at the end of the night is always appreciated.  

 

For our photographer, I plan on sending a very nice thank you with a gift certificate to a restaurant or spa.  She is my age and new to the photography game as well as the ‘owner’ of her company.  Since she sets the prices of the photography packages & we are already paying her for all day coverage, I think the gift and thank you should suffice.  I know I would appreciate a “free” dinner with my hubby!  

 

For my hair/make-up I will tip the standard 20-25%.  She just opened up her own salon & is coming to our venue to do our hair and makeup.  

 

What about wedding coordinators, DJ/Band, officiant?  Do you tip them too?  Weddings are already so expensive, but I don’t want to stiff the lovely people who are helping us have the wedding of our dreams! 

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Redholix:  Below is a list og people that I tipped and how much:

Venue- 20 % gratuity was included but the tip fo Bridal attendant and Maitre D’ was not

Bridal attendant got $100 and Maitre D got $200

DJ- $300 (wel let him split it with his helpers)

Photographer/Videographer – we had two photographers and 1 videographer and they each got $100

H&M- $30 each

 

Post # 11
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Redholix:  yes, both maitre d and bridal attendant were a part of venue staff but their tip is not part of the 20%

tipping is annoying, given that we are already paying hundreds to sometimes thousands of dollars for their service

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