Post # 1
Now that the wedding date is coming up, I’ve been thinking a lot about the day-of schedule & yet another expense – tipping.
1) Venue Tipping
FI and I recently paid our venue the final bill, and in it, it had the usual tax & service charge, but also 20% gratuity.
We were wondering if we still need to “tip” the venue on the day-of on top of the 20% gratuity that was included in our bill…and how much if we do need to tip them?
2) Vendor Tipping
I am planning on tipping our two photographers and my hair & makeup artist, but I wasn’t sure how much is appropriate.
Primary photographer will be with us for 10 hrs and secondary photographer for 6 hours, for a photography package that cost us around $3000.
For H&M aritst, I have one person doing both my MOH and myself, and her service for both of us (hair & makeup for both MOH and myself) is totaling to around $560.
How much tipping would be appropriate for them??
Paying off multiple final bills has started to stress us out quite a lot!
Post # 3
1. If venue charges gratuity (most do where I live), you do not have to tip.
2. General rule is if the vendor is boss or self-employed you do not have to tip. If you are going to a salon, and person doing H & M is not owner, I would tip 20%. For photographer, I would recommend not major tipping till you get ALL pictures.video done. If main one is owner, tip second guy say $100.
Post # 4
I didn’t know that you don’t need to tip a boss/self-employed vendor. The H&M artist is the owner, and so is the florist who is bringing in the centerpieces and the altar. As for the photographers, they are part of a big wedding photography company, so I guess I’ll tip both of them once we get our photos back.
Post # 5
The idea is that the owner/self employed determines fee or charges, an employee does not.
Post # 7
I have concerns about tipping too. As a service industry veteran, I definitely don’t want to leave someone unpaid! Our catering company does not include gratuity. With a possible $3000 price tag, I’m not sure the standard 20% tip is doable for us! Is there a good dollar amount for say, each server/bartender there? I’m sure they get paid an hourly wage to cater (I did when I worked for a country club that did weddings & events), but know that cash at the end of the night is always appreciated.
For our photographer, I plan on sending a very nice thank you with a gift certificate to a restaurant or spa. She is my age and new to the photography game as well as the ‘owner’ of her company. Since she sets the prices of the photography packages & we are already paying her for all day coverage, I think the gift and thank you should suffice. I know I would appreciate a “free” dinner with my hubby!
For my hair/make-up I will tip the standard 20-25%. She just opened up her own salon & is coming to our venue to do our hair and makeup.
What about wedding coordinators, DJ/Band, officiant? Do you tip them too? Weddings are already so expensive, but I don’t want to stiff the lovely people who are helping us have the wedding of our dreams!
Post # 8
I dont have a DJ or a wedding coordinator so im not sure.
FI and I have put aside $300 for our officiant because he has been very kind in letting us fully customize and personalized our ceremony at no cost.
Im set on not tipping my venue now but not sure about hair and makeup artist and photographerz…
Post # 9
@Redholix: Below is a list og people that I tipped and how much:
Venue- 20 % gratuity was included but the tip fo Bridal attendant and Maitre D’ was not
Bridal attendant got $100 and Maitre D got $200
DJ- $300 (wel let him split it with his helpers)
Photographer/Videographer – we had two photographers and 1 videographer and they each got $100
H&M- $30 each
Post # 10
Were your bridal attendant and maitre D your venue staff or did you find/hire them separately?
My maitre D is provided by my venue, apparently.
(Why does tipping have to be this hard!)
Post # 11
@Redholix: yes, both maitre d and bridal attendant were a part of venue staff but their tip is not part of the 20%
tipping is annoying, given that we are already paying hundreds to sometimes thousands of dollars for their service
Post # 12
I know right? As if we aren’t already spending enough….