- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
A few weeks ago we inquired in earnest about what we thought was a perfect venue; it had everything, outdoor space on the water, indoor dining room with a bar & kitchen, indoor bathrooms, parking, a liquor license and no need to pay extra for tables & chairs since they already had them! Biggest bonus was the cost — gratuity is a lovely word when it comes to weddings.
However, the second I try and hash out the specifics of a contract & actual liability/use, the venue seems to be waffling. Great.
It’s just unbelievably frustrating to have thought to have found the perfect venue, everything we needed included in the booking costs, only to be told a few weeks later, that despite the fact we were given a ‘yes’ that it has now become a ‘no.’ WTF are you serious?
Let me back up.
The venue is [was?] a private yacht club. The club doesn’t regularly ‘rent out’ the space, since its primary function is for the club members. Well, funny thing that FFIL happens to be a member. In the Club ‘rules’ or ‘charter of rights’ as you would call it, every member has the RIGHT to use the club house & amenities whenever they like, this includes ‘events’ [bbqs etc].
So, we thought, hey, it’s a really nice space, everything we could possibly want is already there, FFIL is a member everything should be kosher, right? Wrong.
The Commodore [President] of the club has been really less than helpful. At first he seemed only to be being cautious, letting us know that while they don’t give ‘private bookings’ we could use the space as long as we respected the other member’s rights to use & have access to the club/slips before/during/after our event.
I was totally 100% FINE with this. Honestly, FFIL knows everyone at the club, and a LOT of his really close friends happen to be club members and would be invited to the wedding anyway. I mentioned this, that I didn’t have a problem with other people being there or even joining us! I’m a very mellow fellow, so the more the merrier!
Next the Commodore had a problem with us possibly using the kitchen [we were thinking about self catering], “what if someone else wants to use it? what if members feel crowded out?” Well, that wasn’t a tough one for me AT ALL, I didn’t really want to do an extensive menu, and I actually kind of wanted to avoid anything hot if I could help it, so it just makes MY job easier if he says ‘no, you can’t use the kitchen’ which I let him know as well.
To try and assuage his worries, I even took the extra step to ask how many tables and chairs SPECIFICALLY they had, and said “whatever that number is, cut it in half, and that’s the MAXIMUM we will use, I’ll write the guest list based on that number, that way, club members will still have seating options inside the club house should they need them.”
Apparently, this was not good enough for him. FFIL has been talking to him since, I am not certain of the specifics of the conversation as FFIL has been on the road the past few weeks, but from what he has said, the commodore has been really negative about the whole thing and seems to be backing out on what he said we could do.
The cherry on the cake is that the Commodore, is FFIL’s Brother. Yeah, that’s right. FH’s Uncle is basically telling him to go suck some eggs — thanks a lot Uncle A, you are so awesome, you deserve a GOLD STAR.
I just think it is ridiculous that someone would even say ‘yes’ when they really meant ‘no.’
FH and I plan on talking to his Uncle face to face this weekend to try and figure out if this thing is doable, or if we’re better off going back to the drawing board. I plan on having sample contracts on hand when we go, because this is just getting silly. I am so not looking forward to the unscheduled 3.5hour drive to deal with this nonsense.
Sorry for the rant, but no one else really wants to hear about wedding woes IRL 🙂