Post # 1
I have to vent a little. For some reason the venue part has been so incredibly stressful that I can’t wait till it’s over. 🙁
Basically, right now we have one main option. It was the venue I had in mind before we were even engaged. It’s beautiful, it’s within our budget, it even provides floral arrangements for the dining room – what’s not to love?! And yet, for some reason, I’m just not 100% sure we should go with it.
And the worst thing is that I can’t even name any real, rational reasons why. I think it could be because of how we visited the first time. We were heading back from vacation, and were pretty tired. The weather was gray and rainy, I was hungry, and it just didn’t wow me as much as I had hoped (would anything have, under those circumstances?..).
So we set out to look at other options. We drove back up to VT this Sunday, and looked at a couple of places. Everything else was worse, much worse. To the point of not wanting to get out of the car worse. (It’s amazing how awesome a good photographer can make a place look!) But even places that cost 3+ times more than our current one don’t feel truly awesome.
Right now we’re coming to the point where we really need to put down the deposit, but I really don’t know what to do. We can’t keep going up there to look at options that end up being non-options (it’s a 4 hour drive one way), but I just wish I had at least two comparable venues to choose from… Whereas right now it feels kind of like settling, although that’s not right at all – as I said, the place is actually quite gorgeous (Vanderbilt mansion on Lake Champlain in VT with farm-to-table food from their own gardens…).
Has anyone ever fallen in love with a venue that they were a little blah about at first?
Post # 3
We are also getting married in New England, and we barely searched for venues because we went with the first one we visited! However, I was kind of iffy about it after we left the tour, I think mostly because of the “but it was the first one we saw” thing. We basically thought about it for a week and then went with it. We are SO HAPPY we chose it! Working with them has been a pleasure every step of the way. I say trust your gut and go for it!!
Post # 4
@cranraspberry: Listen to your gut, girl. I’ll message you some ideas!
Post # 5
@coffeeloverbee: thanks for sharing!! The thing is, my gut is so confused I have no idea what it wants. 🙁 Right now it’s “We should totally go for it!”, while earlier this morning it was all “No, you should do something completely different”
@love108: you are a lifesaver. Seriously. I think the world would be a far less sane place if it wasn’t for people like you!
The thing that annoys me most is I can’t really even pinpoint what I don’t like about it! If anything. I can get nitpicky and say that the chairs were a little more worn than I expected, or that I didn’t really love the patio furniture for the cocktail reception, but I completely realize that this all doesn’t matter the least bit!!! Ugh, #firstworldproblems
Post # 6
I’m from Vermont! If you see something good, book it! There’s not a whole lot to choose from!
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: I know! Especially for such a small group – we’re only planning on 20-25 guests.
I think I need to sleep on this for a bit, and then hopefully it will all seem simple in the morning. 🙂
Post # 8
@cranraspberry: Any time! I know it can be rough to make a decision this big. I’m sure youll make the right decision and your venue (whatever venue you choose) will be amazing!