Post # 1
ok so there is a venue I love… I went for a walk through with the day of even planner and though i loved the space … she seems abracive … she is intense high strung and made me unconfy kinda stressed me out just being with her a few min
i love the space… and this was just a 1st impression 15 min maybe would that make you not want to book the space… you don’t even deal with her till the day of and week b4
how ever the day of kinda is most importnt lol
oh did i mention i love love love the space
Post # 3
I did not really see eye to eye with my venue planner
We got off on the wrong foot and things never improved (I think she mistook my anxiety for stupidity or ignorance)
My way of dealing was to have my FI deal directly with her (emails and telephone calls) and things always got done.
Don’t pass on the venue you love because of a venue planner…..
Post # 4
@californiabride2013: thanks so much for the imput b.c. i was really worried
she just didn’t like my questions ….like she said for the cermony about 30 could sit 60 would stand around … i tried to ask if that worked out she went in a harsh tone … I assure you that i done over 300 wedding my self the space 500 not one person has said something if anyone cares they are over reacting and you sholnt even care what other ppl think its your day (mean while i just wanted my guests comfy) and all i asked was if ppl minded or ever had a prob with that
it was her tone and sharpness that made me unconfy and how rushed she spoke
then i asked about this very loud red bench if i could cover it wth drapping or something and she goes i dont know why you evne think of that no one else ever had (red clashes with my colours) she didnt evne answer and seemed offened i dint like the benches colour
then there was this huge red painting and i asked if you were ever aloud to switch art (i didnt expect a yes or a no i wasnt sure it was true curiousity) and she seemed angry i even suggest switching it almost like she pickedi t or something lol it was just an innocent question
then i asked about making a lounge space if irented sofas and stuff and she bit my head off saying you dont need to anything in there …. we move tables for lounging and chairs (but i don’t want tables and chairs i want old lookng sofas and stuff)
it was like draining just trying to talk to her ohh and i said my wwedding would be 50–60 she like that really not buget wise(its a min spend so its the same price no matter if u have 10-95 ppl) she said that its just not bugdet smart or a good soace for 60 (mean while the dance floor is rather small and i rather not invite ppl who i am not close to justto beef up numbers)
at 1st i was gonna get married with 40 in an estate int he moutnains wher u book it andevyerne stays there .. how ever i had trouble getting it down to 40 for the dinner and 35 for the sleeps over so igave that up knowing its more 47 at lowest and confy around 55 60 dep on who has dates
Post # 5
@Kissed_by_lightning: what I have found is that venue planners have assisted in numerous weddings which leads them to think they have things down to a science. They think they know what is best for every bride but in actuality what they are do/say is whatever is best/easist for them. I spent several nights crying about the venue planner and my FI decided that it was best for him to have all the contact with our planner. If you have a bridal party, maybe get your maid of honor to assist in communicating with the venue planner.
Best of luck!!!
Post # 6
The venue I booked had (yep… HAD) a manager who was, quite frankly, a real ding-dong. I had an uneasy feeling about her anyway, but my feelings were completely validated when I asked if the date I wanted to book was available. She proceeded to grab a napkin that she’d written another bride’s date on to verify that it wasn’t the same. Couldn’t read her own friggin hand writing and had to text the other bride, freaking her the heck out, I’m sure! We booked the site, with a lot of uncertainty and mixed emotions. Luckily, about half-way through this process, she’s been removed from her position and the new lady is AH-FREAKING-MAZING! 🙂 Don’t pass on the venue you love because of someone who works there or for them. It’s your day and you shouldn’t sacrifice what you envision because of some lady who obviously has her panties in a twist. 🙂
Post # 7
I know you didn’t ask this, but I’m just going to say that I wouldn’t make your guests stand (if I read that right, you asked her about that). It is uncomfortable to stand for some people. None of my friends would ever guess it, because no one has ever asked, but if I stand for that long in one place (especially in heels), I get really bad knee pain and back pain. You never know what ailments your guests may have and many girls will probably wear heals = not comfy to stand in one spot.
People may disagree, and I’m not attacking. Just a suggestion. I would pick a place where all of your guests have a seat for the ceremony and reception. 🙂 I think all of your guests will be comfy and happier if you do that. 🙂
Post # 8
oh and I would maybe talk to the lady again about things that are important to you. If she isn’t flexable, she may not be flexable about other things that come up in the future, so I would be hesitant. But if you can live with her not being flexable because you like the venue that much, then go with it.
Post # 9
@not_that_kind_of_DR: I was thinking that my self I wanted to clear that up i was like well is there no way to get ppl in (the email lady said there was standing room for up to 95 and sitting for 35 or up to 50 if u rent and bring in smaller chairs (they have no stroage though so u have ot take there stuff away and store it i guessed i rent a big truck and park it lol)
but ya long and short of it i really worried if the standing for the vowes is a bad idea and she seemed to be shocked i even suggst such a thing and all i asked did anyone ever mind standing cuas i know i perfer to sit
i want my guest to be comfy she seemed upset i care if they were she went on to go its your day people shouldnt care if your happy they dont matter that day (she had a bit of a bad attitude when i worried what ppl feel like or think of things saying i was over thinking it)
Post # 10
I think it is wonderful that you are thinking of your guest. You are hosting them. 🙂 On “my day” I would never be comfortable if my guests weren’t properly hosted! I think chairs are a must, and if you can’t seat your guest list then you have time to look for a friendlier and better venue. 🙂