Venues even planner STRESSING YOU OUT

posted 3 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Is it a deal breaker
    if you don't feel right with her she could ruin your day go else where : (2 votes)
    33 %
    give her a chance, you if she really bothers her your groom can handle her lol : (2 votes)
    33 %
    ask if you can work with someone else day of : (2 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I did not really see eye to eye with my venue planner

    We got off on the wrong foot and things never improved (I think she mistook my anxiety for stupidity or ignorance)

    My way of dealing was to have my FI deal directly with her (emails and telephone calls) and things always got done. 

    Don’t pass on the venue you love because of a venue planner…..

    Post # 5
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    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  what I have found is that venue planners have assisted in numerous weddings which leads them to think they have things down to a science.  They think they know what is best for every bride but in actuality what they are do/say is whatever is best/easist for them.  I spent several nights crying about the venue planner and my FI decided that it was best for him to have all the contact with our planner.  If you have a bridal party, maybe get your maid of honor to assist in communicating with the venue planner. 

    Best of luck!!!

    Post # 6
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    The venue I booked had (yep… HAD) a manager who was, quite frankly, a real ding-dong. I had an uneasy feeling about her anyway, but my feelings were completely validated when I asked if the date I wanted to book was available. She proceeded to grab a napkin that she’d written another bride’s date on to verify that it wasn’t the same. Couldn’t read her own friggin hand writing and had to text the other bride, freaking her the heck out, I’m sure! We booked the site, with a lot of uncertainty and mixed emotions. Luckily, about half-way through this process, she’s been removed from her position and the new lady is AH-FREAKING-MAZING! 🙂 Don’t pass on the venue you love because of someone who works there or for them. It’s your day and you shouldn’t sacrifice what you envision because of some lady who obviously has her panties in a twist. 🙂

     

    Post # 7
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    31 posts
    Newbee

    @Kissed_by_lightning: 

     

    I know you didn’t ask this, but I’m just going to say that I wouldn’t make your guests stand (if I read that right, you asked her about that).  It is uncomfortable to stand for some people. None of my friends would ever guess it, because no one has ever asked, but if I stand for that long in one place (especially in heels), I get really bad knee pain and back pain. You never know what ailments your guests may have and many girls will probably wear heals = not comfy to stand in one spot. 

     

    People may disagree, and I’m not attacking. Just a suggestion.  I would pick a place where all of your guests have a seat for the ceremony and reception.   🙂 I think all of your guests will be comfy and happier if you do that. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Newbee

    @not_that_kind_of_DR:  

     

    oh and I would maybe talk to the lady again about things that are important to you. If she isn’t flexable, she may not be flexable about other things that come up in the future, so I would be hesitant. But if you can live with her not being flexable because you like the venue that much, then go with it.

    Post # 10
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    31 posts
    Newbee

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  

    I think it is wonderful that you are thinking of your guest. You are hosting them. 🙂  On “my day” I would never be comfortable if my guests weren’t properly hosted!  I think chairs are a must, and if you can’t seat your guest list then you have time to look for a friendlier and better venue. 🙂

     

     

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