Post # 1
My SO and I attended a wedding over two months ago. We got the couple a very generous gift. The day after the wedding, we got a text from the groom saying something to the extent of “thank you so much for coming. your gift was beyond generous and it means so much to us.” ok that was nice if not a bit odd. we texted back that we were honored to be invited to their special day and wished them a lovely honeymoon.
Well, now it’s been over two months and we have not received a thank you card for the gift and I’m sort of getting irritated as this seems to be a trend with SO’s group of friends.
Do you think the couple thinks that the text took care of the formal thank you? Do you think that a text like that should be considered enough of a thank you?
Post # 3
Yikes, I totally think they do. I don’t think a text is ok, if they sent that and then sent a card sure, but just a text? I don’t know seems kinda lazy to me!
Post # 4
I think that is lazy and doesn”t replace a real thank you note in my mind.
Post # 5
Wow! Did they send their STD’s & invitiations via text message too? That’s crazy to me!
Post # 6
I agree! They probably thought that was ok and what is worse, they probably sent a mass text saying just that because that has no personal identifies in it! You could give them the benefit of the doubt…maybe they are overwhelmed with post-wedding stuff to do, maybe they decided to just up and move to their honeymoon locale once they got there, maybe they have so many thank you’s to write that they just haven’t gotten to yours yet. Either way, I think they should write a formal thank you, especially for anything over $5-10. But some people are just like that. I don’t know if I’d make a big deal over it but you’ll just know in the future not to contribute so much to a gift for them that won’t be appreciated.
Post # 7
I’m not an etiquette stickler, but thank you notes, which show gratitude for someone taking their hard earned money to buy you something, is something I fume over.
What they did is just beyond lazy and rude. Ew.
Post # 8
Wow! I received a thank you via facebook, and I thought that was bad. I hope they send a formal thank you. Because of them, I will make sure that I send a proper thank you.
Post # 9
LOL wow people are crazy!!
Post # 10
that is pretty juvenile IMO.. they should send a thank you, not text it!
Post # 11
Maybe they were just so pleased with the gift that they texted you right away to say thanks, and that paper thank yous are just running late? If that’s not the case, I think it is sad that people can’t take the time to write a 3-4 sentence note when someone has taken the time of give you a gift. Not cool.
Post # 12
I’m still waiting for a thank you card for a wedding I attended in April 2009! 😉 I’d take a thank you text over nothing at all. But, the texting is totally immature, IMO.
Post # 13
@oracle:Yeah, I’m still waiting for a thank you for a wedding we were both IN Sept. 2009. It’s not gonna happen. Still, a text is UBER tacky.
Post # 14
Thanks for your responses ladies. I’m glad to know that it’s not just me having a stick up my behind over this.
@princessleia: your suggestions of the late coming card are well taken but sadly not the case. The groom is an aspiring photographer and otherwise works part time for his family’s business. the bride is not doing much of anything right now. she’s not working and spends all day updating her facebook status about every mundane thing she does every hour, (“ooooh i’m going to learn how to crochet” “just went to starbucks, yum”, “considering taking a gardening class”). Instead of gardening, sit your butt down and write some thank you cards!!! hahaha
Post # 15
I would maybe send a text but it wouldn’t be the only thing. I would send a text so it get’s out within a month of the wedding, but definitely send them a thank you card.
Post # 16
Ick this is just technology gone wrong. A girl I went to school with has just done Facebook invites to her wedding… paperless wedding invites I can get behind, inviting people to your wedding the same way you’d invite them to a BBQ at your house I cannot.