Verball RSVPs?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

khrideon:  unless they’re the flaky type I wouldn’t bother.  If you’re concerned they might no-show on you i’d just do a friendly ‘we’ll still see you at the wedding?’ type thing

Post # 3
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

khrideon: maybe just send an email to confirm their confirmation for their records. If I were a guest who gave a verbal confirmation and then you asked me to mail in a card or followed up with me, I might be confused as to why there’s ambiguity because didn’t I just tell you I was / wasn’t coming? Or were you not listening to me? 

Just send an email: “Glad we connected and I can’t wait to see you + et. al. at our wedding or I’m bummed that you can’t make it to our wedding”

Post # 4
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


khrideon:  It kind of depends on the verbal confirmation.  I would follow up if it wasn’t purposful verbal commitment.  Its a judgmental thing, but you can kind of tell the difference.  I’m taking RSVPs anyway I get them, so I have marked a lot of things based on verbal commiment (espeically wedding party) but there are times where I just don’t mark it because it is either vague, or second hand.  So if cousin Tony told his mom who told your mom that his family would be coming, I would follow up with cousin Tony.  If it was “Are you coming to my wedding?” and the answer was “I should be,” or varition there of, I would follow up.   “I am getting a hotel room for your wedding.” then no need to follow up!

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