- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I come from a very damaged background, so my perspective on family is skewed (to put it in a short story, I have multiple families through no fault of my own).
My FI comes from a very traditional family. Mom, Dad and 3 kids. He’s the oldest. His midle sister has always had somewhat of a personality problem. She’s always been verbally abusive and emotinally manitpulative to everyone, including her parents since she was a child. Her mom bore the brunt but did not address it, her dad ignored it, my FI rebelled against it and little sis avoided it.
Recently, something blew up that should of stayed betweeen my FI and his sister but she dragged her parents into it. She’s living at his parents, with her husband.
His mom is obvously a HUGE enabler.
He’d be happy if his sister didn’t come to the wedding. He didn’t want to invite her, but I said that so long as his mom is enabling her behavior, we’ll follow her lead to keep peace. He reluctantly agreed with this. He said if her behavior continues he’ll disenvite her. I told him we can do whatever he likes, but he said that my plan is more logical so we’ll go with that.
I’m working on the invitations now, planning to send them out at the end of March. Unsure of the right path to take.