Very bad day

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Don’t be down…My fiance took me ring shopping after our first year together, then never bought one…after that he said I was being a terror..lol

 

 

 

Then after 2 years of dating he took me ring shopping again…still no buy and then his brother called to tell him that he bought a ring for his g/f.  Which made my fiance wait another 5 months not to steal his brothers thunder.

 

 

 

I was getting so frustrated and mad at him.  I thought to myself am I not good enough?  How come other guys it doesn’t take as long for them to realize they want to marry their lady.

 

 

 

The truth is it takes every guy different amounts of time to realize they are ready.  Don’t pressure him.  Don’t ask about the ring or the engagement or act sad(this will only make him, make you wait longer) Be your happy, cheerful normal self and don’t bring up anything about the future.  You being sweet to him, loving him and laughing with him will create the perfect situation for him to propose to you

 

 

 

And I PROMISE Once he does…you won’t believe it’s already happened and you will wish you could rewind to experience it again and again.  Look forward that you still have that grand time in your life awaiting you:)

 

 

 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have you considered proposing to him?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I waited 6.5 years for a proposal, I know how u feel!!! 

i remember my hubby at the time saying “I think it’s about time i got you ring” well I was so excited, then he didn’t propose till 2 years later!!!!! I was like wtf? 

Dont worry hang in there, it  WILL happen!

Post # 6
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@Laurenplusalex:  did he say he’s not ready for your future outright or is he not ready because of school/finances/etc?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m so sorry you had a bad day :(! Nothing hurts more than getting your hopes up, only to be let down. I always let this happen, and then get sooo angry at myself.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know it hurts and I’m sorry you’re having a not so good day. But you’re in good company here, my SO has paid for the ring, received the ring, and I’m still sitting here wondering when and where. Sucky feelings but every guy is different and if he’s worth holding on to jsut keep holding on, you’ll be alright!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Hugs, he should know better to mention “sparkly” if he doesn’t mean THAT sparkly item when he knows you are waiting.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Aww sweety I’m so sorry you’re hurting :c and I’m sorry that he thought using the word “sparkly” wouldn’t at least make you consider it being an engagement ring.

 

I do understand how you feel *hugs* BF says one thing and doesn’t even think about working on it. He complains when I’m sad but doesn’t want to understand why, when he clarified that it wasn’t going to happen this year (which he initially said to someone else while I was there, so not even actually to me, and then had to reiterate later) he told me that I’m too obsessed with it. But maybe I wouldn’t be so obsessed if he hadn’t have said he had a plan at the beginning of the year?

 

It’s like they know how much it means to us but fail to notice how they themselves raise our hopes and then don’t want to accept any fault when it’s pointed out.

 

Anyway, it really really sucks and I’m sorry, hopefully it’ll get better soon!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Laurenplusalex:  How long have you been together and what was the shiny surprise??

Sounds like you’re on the merry go round. I don’t want it to hurt our relationship — newsflash: you’re relationship is already being hurt because your needs are not being met.

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Using the word “sparkly”/”shiny” is pretty cruel when he knows you want to be engaged. Sorry you are upset. *hugs*

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t know if it’s just my relationship but I cringe when I see all the woman like you who don’t tell their boyfriends that they are disappointed.  Especally in a disapointment so cruel. Perhaps it shows that you are not ready for marriage.  You should never have to walk on eggshells about any topic.

Now, my guy is unusually open and enjoys my count down timer till we are married…(we’ve picked a date, he’s proposing sometime in October) but still…I can’t immagine marrying someone who I could not tell my fears and worries to…even about marriage itself.

Think of it this way…if you cannot talk to him comforably about marriage how will you fare in marriage topics?  Kids?  Money?  What happens when you have a problem that you are hesitant to tell him and he needs to man up and ask what’s wrong?  If he’s used to ignoring your emotions then it will only get worse.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Laurenplusalex:  I have a question…do his actions match his words? A ring is not proof, or an action. It’s a tangible reminder of love, yes, but a pair of earrings can do that too. Does he treat you well, respect you, want to spend his life with you, and show you he loves you? If he does, I say you are further ahead than a lot of folks who are married.

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