Post # 1
Hi Bees, I am nearing the end of a real crappy day. I wish I could just sit down with my best girlfriend and have a glass (or many) of wine and forget about it, but alas friends are on the other side of the planet. No major drama, just need to tell girls about my day because FI (as much as he trys) just doesn’t get the trauma. My hair got BUTCHERED today. It’s so awful, I spent an hour in tears when I got home. I look like a scarecrow.
I get up from my cryfest to use the restroom (sorry if thats TMI) and as I’m washing my hands I thought I felt something weird. Something like a little stone. Gasp, heart stops. Turn off the tap immediately and look down at my beautiful ring. Worst fears confirmed, tiny diamond gone from the pave setting. The same tiny diamond that fell out 2 days before my engagement party. That time however, FI found the diamond and we got it fixed. or so we thought because now 3 weeks later it has fallen out again. I seriously have the greatest FI in the world because he dismantled the sink and sifted through all the disgusting sludge in the pipes. Unfortunately we weren’t so lucky this time. Diamond gone. Diamond ring bought in Boston so can’t replaced until I go home in June. Engagement ring sad looking, Aloweha very sad looking. Anyway, so I am pretty miserable tonight.
FI just went out, rented a movie (because I told him I can’t leave the house until my hair grows out), bought a tub of ice cream and poured me a big glass of red wine – maybe he does get it after all…
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Oh girl, I totally understand. Having problems that your girlfriends can understand best, but it’s a completely unnatural time for them and no one is on skype, gchat or facebook chat – at least no one that you really want to talk to.
The silver lining? That even though it really sucks now, hair grows and diamonds can (eventually) be replaced, you and your fiance share so many situations where you would usually turn to others but instead you end up turning to your fiance. Mr.D and I have had so many extra conversations and I think it really has brought us closer.
Not that UK/Aussie time (10 hours) is that much closer than Aussie/US time. But if you ever need to vent feel free to PM me. I don’t really have any close female friends in the UK either – being the trailing spouse/fiancee can really stink. <3
Post # 4
I’m so sorry. I hate bad days like that. Can you contact the jewler that fixed the ring the first time and tell them that it fell out again? Do you have insurance on your ring? That may cover the replacement of that stone.
Sending you BIG HUGS and positive vibes for a better week.
Post # 5
I’m sorry you had a crappy day. But your jeweler should fix the ring without a problem — any competent jeweler knows that losing stones is one of the dangers of pave, and those teeny diamonds are really cheap. I doubt it would be worth putting through your insurance even if the jeweler does make you pay rather than just fixing it. Just out of curiosity, is the ring a "brand name" setting (like Ritani, Tacori, etc.) or is it custom or an independent design? That might change the way it’s serviced when you take it in to be fixed.
I hope today is a better day!
Post # 6
Oh my gosh — my hair got butchered last week, too!! I’ve got five weeks til my bridal portraits and I can only hope it grows out a little bit. After only a week, though, it’s already looking better, so there’s hope.
I think the most important thing you mentioned in this post is how awesome your FI was in responding to these (majorly!) stressful things! What a sweet, supportive guy.
Post # 7
I feel for ya! Hair is such a personal thing, and even if no one else in the room is concerned with my hair, if I don’t feel good about it, it directly impacts the way I feel about my day.
I’m so sorry about your rings also! You need a (((((((((((((((((hivehug))))))))))))))))))!
It sounds like you’ve got a GOOD GUY also!
Post # 8
Oh man, that sucks. I feel so badly for you! As for you hair, can you wear a neat hat part of the time? Or can any other stylist redeem it somewhat?
Many hugs to you!
Post # 9
I’m sorry you had a bad day… Ice cream and wine are cure-alls however! Your girlfriends here understand your pain! (and it sounds like your fiance does too…)
Post # 10
Awww your guy gets it on some level. They don’t understand completely, but if he is bringing you ice cream then he knows you’re stressing. He probably thinks you look beautiful no matter what your hair looks like and all that matters is that you have each other!
Post # 11
Hive hugs to you A! (((((Aloweha))))))
Your hair will grow out. until then you’ll find a new way to look fabulous and may like it more! My bff is six hours away. My sis (other bff) four to five hours away. My other local bff just moved several thousand miles away. So I feel your pain.
Call your FI. Have him communicate what happened to your ring, how SAME stone fell out AGAIN..they may have a duplicate setting and can find an exact match for your stone and reimburse you for the cost of having it re-set..with diamond too. Or you could have them send it (free of cost) and insured back and let them fix it quickly.
I had a diamond fall out too years back. Kept falling out too. It is troublesome.
Hey..what movie did you watch? And most importantly what red wine do you prefer?
We may not be there to give hugs in person, but consider us friends too!
Post # 12
Thanks all. The support I see on this website is incredible, even though technically we don’t know each other! I am so grateful to have learned about Wedding Bee, not just for the millions of ideas I have gotten for my wedding, but for this wonderful community of kind, caring people.
Ms Dorsay: thank you so much for your post, you’re exactly right about being the trailing spouse. And I feel like the things I have had to turn to my FI about, instead of girlfriends or parents, have brought us so much closer.
I’m less distressed this morning (maybe it’s dulled by the headache from the red wine of last night). Not sure what to do about the ring. We haven’t insured it. We bought it from Shreve Crump and Low (one of the oldest jewelers in Boston). I checked their website last night and it looks like they will replace the diamond, but I’ll still have a holey ring until I can get it back to Boston in June. Hair, sigh, I managed to scrape it back into a semi-alright looking pony tail. It’s just weird because I have such thick hair and she thinned it out so much that it’s like this tiny little ponytail or a few hairs. And the layers she cut in are all choppy. I shudder to think what it will be like when it air dries and my curls take over. amysue: I forgot I wanted to get engagement pics done soon! Shoot I hope I can hold it off long enough to look normal again! Good luck with your bridal portraits!
bellenga: The movie was Baby Mama – I needed something funny. Wine was just from Aussie vineyards, we have quite a collection from all the vineyard touring we do. A Pinot Nior and then some Cab Sav I believe. Good last night, not so good this AM! 🙂
Post # 13
BOOO to bad days…hope it looks up soon hon
Post # 14
Yes bad days suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m so sorry you’re feeling the way you do. I’m starting to really understand why people stress so much before the wedding. Mines in 3 months and I’m literally wishing I’m on my honeymoon already. But I’m really trying to just learn a life lesson from all this….crappy days happen and things will always come up that we don’t like. But life goes on……..whether you’re happy or not. So just take it as a life lesson and say bye bye bad day!! Hope the rest of your week was better!!! *hugs*