very opinionated FI…

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jgtexas22:  I’d seriously tell him straight out at this point: “I am giving you options A, B, and C. I need an answer by March 1st. If you don’t have answer for me or an alternative that we can discuss I am going to pick what I feel is best.”

Seriously, I know that may sound bitchy, but honestly if he wanted options and you’re giving them to him and he doesn’t like them but won’t help pick anything out then its a done deal–you pick.

Post # 4
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

@megz06:  +1 that sounds like the best option

@jgtexas22:  I like PP idea of giving a timeline for him to decide or come up with something else. and letting him know that you will make a decision if he hasn’t.

Post # 5
1715 posts
Bumble bee

You may just have to say something along the lines of “If you don’t like something, either come up with a good alternative or don’t say anything at all. You don’t get to say there’s a problem, but offer zero solutions.”

What Megz06 suggested would be a great thing to do, too. I love the “deadline” idea. It would solve and prevent a lot of problems. 

Post # 6
396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Omg, totally what megz said…timeline, here are your 3 options, if you fail I will pick myself. One of the options should be to bring his own 2 options to the table for discussion, incase he doesn’t like your choices at all. Once the timeline passes, too bad, buddy!

Post # 9
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jgtexas22:  I’ve had that problem too – my best solution has been to delegate some things entirely to him.  If they don’t get done, I don’t care, but now he can see that it is alot of work!

Post # 10
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@jgtexas22:  i find sometimes writing stuff on a white board and slaping it up on the wall in a prominate place (ours is in the kitchen) with a STILL TO DO catagory might force him to see on a daily basis exactly what there is left to do. Put a deadline (i like that idea) in RED beside the items and talk to him about each one left to do. Maybe when its presented on a visual reminder basis it might trigger him to remember to pick something or do something? Just a thought…

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