- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Over the last month or two my SO and I started having increasingly more serious conversations about our relationship of a year (tomorrow is 1 year dating anniversary!) Three weeks ago it was assurance that we both see this relationship ending in marriage. We were approaching a year of dating so it seemed around the time to hopefully have some idea where this was heading.
But our latest conversation was just so exciting it almost caught me off guard. SO had been excitedly talking about houses and sending me links to places to get an idea what we could afford, where we’d want to live to start a family etc. I was thrilled, as I do want to get a house in the next year, year and a half (according to when my lease is up) but I questioned what made him so eager all of a sudden without being engaged yet. And he said he was just so excited for where we’ll be, he was looking ahead, and apologized for confusing me. He agreed it was important to be engaged first but he just got caught up in it.
The conversation turned to engagement and marriage. We both agreed two years from now would be a good time to get married, and talked about how we’d like at least a year to sort through everything. The most exciting part – and I’m so nervous/excited to even process it – he told me that I should get my finger sized very soon. So that I can forget about it for a whille and have it be a surprise when he does propose. I mean little does he know that once I know he has my size, I will go crazy inside wondering what/when/where! But I also know he can’t keep a secret at all, so once he gets the actual ring, he hopefully won’t wait too long. We agree that I want him to surprise me with it, but he says he’d like me to veto styles I don’t like as he already has an idea of what he wants to get me! We also talked about him asking my father’s approval. I assured him my father thinks very highly of him and would say yes, so he plans to do that as well. Amazing. A month ago I didn’t even know if he wanted to get married, and now I feel like I’m actually waiting for real.
It’s amazing what a little communication will do. And I’m extremely blessed my SO is very good with talking with me. He may not bring something up but he is always willing to talk when I do. 🙂
Will definitely be posting more as the anxiety of waiting sets in. But looks like I have a long timeline of up to a year, with a promise of sooner! AH!!