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We are probably going to end up with a 20-25 person wedding. I haven't come up with too much yet but I do want to make it very personal for all my guests. I think we are going to do tea as favours and book a private room at a local resturant for everyone.
Fi and I are having a DW so we are prob going to end up with 20-40 people. I plan on doing welcome boxes for everyone.. We are going to put our fav drinks (sodas,teas,coffees, etc) in there.. as a drink theme.
We are desperately trying to stay under 50 so we don't have to hire an additional coordinator (venue stipulation). Since we are professional adults and are paying ourselves we weren't forced to invite our parents friends and have kept the and guests at a minimum. I think we are sitting at 28 coming with 24 cruising. We only invited five friends total.
I put a cap on the guest list at 40 but I'm desperately hoping for less to come. Were having a DW. I havn't come up with any unique ideas yet. We are getting welcome bags personalized and full of goodies for everyone. We will be having dinner afterward in a restauran'ts private room. Planning is still in motion.
We're doing a wedding on the opposite coast from all of our family and friends so ours is going to come in around the 35 mark I think. We haven't really done anything super personalized as of yet.
We are opting for 50-60 guest..I dont think that I would want to do more than that..EVER. Im just a private person who doesnt like too much attention and I would just feel akward and weird with too many folks. A private affair is great! LOL Im just having a hard time with most venues who are demading at least 100 guest OR charging crazy additional fees for less than 100. We will make it work though and so will you! Good Luck! =)
We are at 19 guests, so 21 including us. FI's father and stepmom haven't returned the RSVP yet, but we are assuming that they aren't coming, and honestly, I'd like to keep the number where it is! We are having the wedding at a fancy hotel here in Portland!
We had around 20 people. Like you my husband had more family than I did there. lol
Anyways, IDK what we really did to make it very personalized. My mother in law made alot of home made stuff for everyone. Like chocolate covered peanut butter balls, chocolate covered pretzels. Our favors which included hand made suckers (we bought them though.) & A holiday card for each guest. (We got married in December.) We also got married in my husbands family church, which meant alot. :-) We held the reception there also.
i envy you all i would love a small wedding but it's impossible even just inviting parents and siblings and wedding party is 70 people that without the aunties and uncles and cousins we are really close too
@expecting rain: aww that sounds lovely! have you thought of having a picture of both of you signed by all the guests for you to to keep? how much cheaper do you think a cheapie small wedding is?
I wanted a small wedding: immediate family and close friends only, around 30 people total, including me and fiance.
However, we still aren't having a huge wedding. We are inviting 80 and not all of those will show. It's still bigger than I wanted though.
I wouldn't think too many personal touches would be required at a smaller wedding. Just by virtue of it being small, it is more personal. You actually have time to spend with all your guests. I would say make it as relaxing for yourself as possible so you can really enjoy the day without running around and worrying about a million different things.
Wait, now you have a FI? I thought you weren't even dating someone??
Anyway, we tried to have a smaller wedding, but we ended up with just over 80 people, which worked out really well for us, and fit our venue perfectly. We were able to do a better dinner selection because of it
Our final attendance count was 54, including ourselves. We invited 75, but it was very short notice, and a lot of those who weren't able to come because they lived across the country.
I thought it was the perfect number for us. Everyone that was there was a close friend or family member, and we were able to spend time with everyone, and feed them a really great meal.
@MrsSl82be: Wait, now you have a FI? I thought you weren't even dating someone?? My thoughts exactly. I has a confused.
On the OP, we've discussed it and agreed to just close family, which will equal to just about 30 people, including us.
For our wedding ceremony we only had 37 people including my husband and I and the pastor. :)
The only thing that I really did any personalization on was the programs. My MIL is deaf and very hard of seeing, and she doesn't speak much English. I wanted her to be able to follow the ceremony as much as possible, so for her I printed out a rough transcript of what the ceremony was going to be in Dutch and in big print. I also did the full rough transcript in Dutch for the rest of our Dutch speaking guests if they wanted it, though those were kept to smaller print. The English versions didn't have the rough transcript, just a timeline, list of important people, etc.
Our reception was bigger with 76 people and I didn't do any specific personalization other then the 'normal' stuff of bringing parts of us into things.
A group shot of everyone at our wedding ceremony:
@MrsSl82be: I didn't even notice who started this thread. I remember seeing that other one, too. Curious.
We are going to end up with a similar number, maybe a few less. I think it will end up being perfect for our venue as well. I'm actually really excited about what we have planned, which makes the larger-wedding-than-I-wanted thing easier to swallow.
We had 35 guests and it was perfect! Some of the things that we did were have water for the guests as they arrived (outside wedding in July), fans for the ladies, personalized drink during cocktail hour, acousitic guitarist during the ceremony, give our favorite candle as a favor, and we took a group photo of everyone immediately after the ceremony. I plan to send everyone who attended a picture of the group once we receive the pictures. The whole day felt very intimate and personal as we were able to thank everyone who came during a nice conversation. I would not have changed a thing about our guest list of our immediate family and our closest friends. With extended family alone we were well over 100 guests, so opting to keep it small and simple was the best option for us!
Oh & I just thought of something sweet that could be done very easily at a small wedding. A ring warming! I never thought about it or would have done this at our wedding!
@dodgercpkl: I totally wish we would have done a group shot!!! That is one of the regrets I had at our wedding. Great pic!!
@MrsSl82be: hehe it was on the top of my absolutely-don't-forget-to-get shots. :D It's definitely one of my favorites!
@Shinytoy: No. I haven't thought that far yet...even if it is only 6 months away. It does sound like a good idea though. For me, it will probably end up costing about 2000 when all is said and done which I think isn't too bad.
@dodgercpkl: yeah, I regret not putting together a list of must have shots. Good for you for getting it!! :)
We have 32 guests for our wedding in 2 weeks. We're doing a ring warming ceremony, and 10 of our guests are directly involved in the ceremony, whether as part of the wedding party, a reader, etc. We are reaching out to involve as many people as possible, so I plan to ask one friend to ensure that everyone has a handbell for the ceremony and another to make the unplugged wedding announcement before the ceremony begins. We're also doing a group photo, seating everyone (including us) at a single long table, giving very personal favors with handwritten messages, having a day-after breakfast for everyone, and having pre-wedding activities for everyone. Our goal is to pamper our guests in every way possible.
@MrsSl82be: no but im forward planning, and i definately wil only have about 5 from my side - close friends and immediate family, and i'd assume my (future) FI will only have a few, since i cant imagine dating someoen from a large family. but who knows? even if he had about say 30 guests, i'd still only have 5 which is a tiny wedding. you see my father passed on, my mother is still alive, and my sister, my best friend and her partner, and possibly my other best friend and partner. not many.
my plan is, to plan a rough idea of a wedding, and start budgeting and hardcoring the serious catholic dating front next year when im 26. i expect to take about 6 months to meet someone i like, 12 months until engagement and then the duration of pre cana to plan the wedding. i want it as stress free as possible, and by the time i meet my FI i want to have enough money to afford half a deposit on a shared house AND most of the costs of the wedding. he would be catholic too, so there would not be too much disagreement.
oh yeah, and i am partial to the oohs and ahhhs of 'wedding porn' lol
@lovekiss: that is so so lovely even the personal favours, the readings, it is so nice to involve all the guests. what sort of pre wedding activities? and who did you invite? was it immediate family and their partners only? how did you explain to your other friends why they didnt get an invite? did you have a big reception open to all? and roughly how much did it cost in total ?
also did you have bridesmaids and best men? flower girls etc?
We're having a DW at a boutique resort 90% of our guests have to stay on property so we can only have 39 people total at our wedding. Since we have the whole resort for 3 days, we're planning activites there for everyone throughout the entire time.
One guest room will be stocked with drinks & snacks available at all times as a service to our guests. We're planning dinner on Friday night & our reception dinner on Saturday for everyone as well.
@Shinytoy: life often has a way of messing up our 'plans'. I hope you aren't setting yourself up for disappointment if things don't happen in accordance with your schedule.
My wedding had 48 people and was perfect:). However even with less than 50 people I didn't feel like we had enough time to enjoy any time with our guests.
@hisgoosiegirl: yeah umm, exactly. I would be thoroughly freaked out if I were a guy and saw this. I understand doing research and getting an idea of how much it will cost, and then saving, but ummmm wow. This takes on a whole new level.... O_o
@Shinytoy: ok, that's all fine and good, but what will you do if you find a man who doesn't like what you want? I just can't wrap my brain around a woman who plans her entire wedding before even knowing who she will marry? What if he doesn't want all the things you want? What if you dont' find someone and end up alone longer than you think? I think you are going to end up with a lot of disappointment in life
Have you heard of Lisa Linehan, the Project Husband lady? She did the same thing, paid for everything, and ended up donating her entire wedding to someone else, because she didn't find a man
What if your future FI has 100 or more relatives??
Or, what if you meet someone in 6 months, date for a year, and it doesn't work out and you have to meet someone else??
Our wedding was very small, only a dozen guests! Our vow renewal will be a tad bigger, about 30 guests.
We're looking at a 20-25 person wedding. Including us, our immediate family and then some close friends.
We're definitely shooting for less than 20 at our DW. :o)
We're having 48 guests, we invted 65 but a lot lived in different places around the country and couldn't make it. (which was fine with me). I did not like the idea of having a ton of people we don't talk to sitting there staring at us while we exchanged vows. That's really personal to me. I think a plus of having a small guest list, besides saving money, is that it feels very intimate and special.
We are eloping and then having a mostly family reception and 2nd ceremony of 20-25 people a couple weeks later. Everyone will be dressed up in Sunday best, but beyond that it's pretty casual. It's at my Dad's house and we're going minimal on decorations and such. Our personal touch is that we will be cooking all of our favorite foods and desserts and sharing that with the family!
We're having about 45-50 guests (based on our preliminary guests list).
I only want our immediate families (I have 2 sisters, he has one sister), their families, and a really good friends. I won't be invinting any cousins, aunts, uncles. For one, it's going to be a plane ride for everyone. No one lives near us. I love my Grammie but she would not get on a plane ever.
I will be taking them white water rafting the day after. Two of my friends can guide, and I can guide the rafts as well.
Nothing individually personalized.
We'll have 15 total & all family. So we're trying to incorporate everyone in the ceremony somehow and/or give them little things to do like hold the rings, etc. I'm undecided between a sand ceremony, a ring warming & a flower ceremony to involove everyone....
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anyone ever had a really small wedding?
did you do anything really personalised just for your guests?
my fam is only about 4 people and FI probably only gonna have about 20 guests