(Closed) VERY strange situation…need your advice.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would explain that if he wants this relationship to work we have to be able to talk about things, especially sex. I would tell him that I love him no matter what and just want to know what’s going on. 

Post # 4
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1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Birdee106:  +1

I also know that with my FI it helps to put the feelings on me so that there is no need to become defensive. Something like,”It hurts me that you don’t feel comfortable talking about this with me. I love you so much. I feel like you you aren’t interested in having sex with me anymore.” Sometimes knowing that it is causing you pain as well can make a guy open up.

Maybe an altered/more natural version of that would be helpful?

Post # 6
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@peachacid:  If she has talkd to him in the past and it doesn’t seem to help maybe she can write him a letter. I’ve always found that can sometimes work better. If I am reading a letter I have time to take everything in and not get defensive right away. I can also really think about my answer and be prepared to have the conversation.

Maybe that would work for her?

Post # 7
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

can you define lack of desire? Like does he not want to have sex ever? Or is he cool with 1-2x/week and she wants it more?  

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