Post # 1
Ugh….I had really hoped to make it through this whole planning thing with only “I’m Stressed” posts on the emotional board but something sad has happened.
Our good family friend (like very good family friend) son got engaged 2 weeks ago. They want to get married this fall (I dont know why they are rushing) and have found that our venue had a cancellation 3 weeks before my wedding. He asked me if this bothered me and I said yes. I said that of course this is his life and I will not hate him for doing this but it just breaks my heart.
I have been planning my wedding for 11 months, at a venue that I absolutely love and now it feels non-special. I’m so sad…
Post # 3
So have they booked it, knowing that you’re not ok with it?
I can see why you’d be upset, but remember in all likelihood, you’ll have different themes, different guests, and a whole different vibe to the day! The last 11 months you’ve put in will clearly show, and everyone will respect the attention to detail that follows.
Try not to let it get you down. If they have done that, then there is no point in upsetting yourself as it’s pointless; you can’t change it. Just focus on the elements of your day that will make it special for you and your FI.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP. Just because the venue is the same doesn’t mean the wedding will be a replica. Your wedding will be a reflection of you and your FI. It will have personalized touches that wouldn’t work at the friend wedding a few weeks earlier. That being said, I can see how that would be annoying.
Post # 5
I think the pp’s make a good point, most thing will still be very different about your weddings. Plus, maybe it can be a good thing. You’ll see how weddings are done there so you can make a note of what you do and don’t want for your wedding.
Post # 6
I guess I would be a little annoyed, but there’s nothing really you can do. The two weddings will be totally different and like PP said, you’ll be able to spot issues and fix them before your wedding.
My cousin is getting married at my venue and I’m actually super-excited for her 🙂
Post # 7
I know I should be able to look at it and see it that way however its just very frustrating. About 60-70 of the people on my guest list will be attending both weddings and we searched long and hard for this venue. It was a bit of a splurge for us and knowing this family, and their connections to the owners I am certain theirs will be over the top compared to ours.
I am happy for them to be getting married and would find it a huge compliment if they got married their after our wedding, however them having a 3 month engagement and rushing to plan their wedding there ahead of mine just hurts me.
I’ll try to remember their will be differences and no matter what it wont spoil my day but for now I am sad.
Post # 8
I would be upset, too 🙁 Is it the type of venue that has different rooms/ areas for receptions? Our place has 4 different rooms with different feels/ atmospheres. If not, I agree with PP’s that all of the fun details and planning you’re doing will definitely make it unique 🙂 One good thing about getting married there after them is you’ll see what their wedding is like first.
Post # 9
I can understand how you would feel but in the grand scheme of things, after you are married, I’m sure you won’t think about them booking the place and your friends and family going to the same venue three weeks apart, but of your special day and how you married the man of your dreams. Best of luck.
Post # 10
Why would he ask if it would bother you if he was just going to go ahead and do it anyways?? Anyways, the other bees are right, your day will still be unique but I 100% understand your frustration, I would be really upset too!
Post # 11
I would be a little annoyed, but remember you do not own nor can control what others do. So what if they are using the same venue. They have a right just as anyone else to use the same venue as you. The big picture you are celebrating getting married to the man you love. Stop sweating the little things
Post # 12
i am kinda in the same boat as you….We have been engaged for about a year and half and my boss got engaged on 10-10-10. her fiance said not to start wedding planning or anything like that…he wasn’t ready. FI and I finally decided a date and announced it on xmas eve. i broughta wedding magazine to work and now she decides to start wedding planning the next day. comes up to me and says “you guys should do 9-10-11, and i said no, i want 9-17-11 last week of summer.” so 3 days later comes and she say “FI decided he wants 9-10-11 and said if you get mad ur not a real friend.” i wasnt mad at all! it is the week before mine and this is her 2nd wedding. she has been copying everything i do and i couldn’t enjoy talking about my wedding plans at work anymore!! Thennnnnnn, my MOH lets me know 2 weeks ago that she and her FI decided on 9-10-11 too and i am a bridesmaid….it’s a 5 hour drive the weekend before our wedding!!!
Post # 13
I agree with PP. All weddings are different, different colors, different flowers, different food etc. I wouldn’t be sad or upset I’d be flattered that I was able to provide a friend with a venue they also love.
Post # 14
Dear friends of ours booked the same venue we did, and their wedding is a month and a half before ours. When my mom asked if I was upset, I thought about it and realized that since I will be attending their wedding, I can also use it as a recon mission, seeing what goes well where in the space, any changes I should make in my plans and how people are situated. Once I realized this might be a great help to my planning (on top of celebrating my friend’s special day), I quickly realized she just wanted to have a nice wedding like I did when I chose the place 🙂
Post # 15
Someone in my fiance’s family just recently booked at our venue one week before our wedding! I don’t know what makes THEM want to do that… I’d want to be in a different place at least, just so it feels special and not so familiar but trust me, everyone’s is different and it won’t be ALL the same people attending both!